9 things people struggling with self-esteem are sick of hearing.

We all go through moments of uncertainty or doubt about ourselves. When you’re battling with self-esteem issues whether constantly or fleetingly, simple things such as going out, getting dressed and meeting new people become a whole new set of challenges.

Often, friends, family or strangers will try to help. They’ll say things that, however well meant, only serve to make the problem worse. Find yourself about to say these phrases? Please, don’t.

1. “There’s no need to be shy.”

We know there’s no need but we can’t help it. Sure, you’re only trying to reassure us but it only makes us feel even more conscious about being quiet. Cue: nervousness.

(Watch: Meaghan Ramsey talks to Mia Freedman about the effects of low self-esteem. Post continues after video.)

2. “She’s such a snob.”

We’re not ignoring or avoiding you because we think we’re better than you.

“I get this a lot because I’m only loud and confident when I’m comfortable but crippled by shyness and uncertainty in unfamiliar situations,” said a friend of mine, Rachel.

3. “Just be confident in yourself.”

What groundbreaking advice!

4. “Stop worrying about what other people think of you.”

Again, if it was that simple, we would have done it by know. (Post continues after gallery.)

Celebrities talk times of low self-esteem.

Serena WilliamsThe tennis champion told Oprah Winfrey that, as a child, she “always tried to be Venus” — her elder sister and fellow tennis superstar, Venus Williams.

Nicole ScherzingerThe former Pussycat Dolls star, told VH1's "Behind the Music, "I hated myself. I really was so disgusted with myself and so embarrassed. I felt so alone. I was in a group, and I never felt so alone in my life.”

Mariah CareyThe powerhouse vocalist told Allure Magazine, “I have had very low self-esteem my whole life.

Jennifer LopezShe told E online, "I was always thinking that people didn’t like me, they just hated me…It’s such a ridiculous notion, we tend to do this to ourselves."

Christina Ricci“For years, I hated myself. I covered the mirrors in my house. I literally couldn’t have a mirror in my room." she told Contactmusic.

Amanda SeyfriedIn an interview with the UK edition of Glamour she said, "I still do get terribly nervous, and that’s partly due to the fact I think too much and overanalyze things."

Adele"I'm scared of audiences," she told Rolling Stone. "One show in Amsterdam I was so nervous, I escaped out the fire exit."

Ellie GouldingThe singer suffers anxiety attacks telling Cosmo, "I was so scared I reached over to this woman and said, ‘I think I’m dying,'”

5. “Forget [insert insecurity], you’re so [insert positive characteristic]!”

“When people try to build your confidence about whatever it is you’re self conscious about, they usually make it worse,” says Kate.

“During my ugly duckling teen years my mum was always like, ‘Oh, but you’re so INTERESTING-looking! You’re not a beach babe, but you’re still attractive! Like, classically attractive!’ Funnily enough that did not make me feel better.”

(But we do appreciate your heart being in the right place.)

6. “Just be yourself.”

*Heads over to the corner and eats and drinks by alone avoiding all human contact*

7. "Why are you so quiet?"

Where do you want us to start?

8. "Quieten down over there!"

...When we haven't said anything during a conversation. You're not funny.

9. "What's wrong?"

If we're being quiet or reserved, we know you're only concerned about us, but often we don't want to talk about it right now. Trust us, we'll talk when we feel like it.

Mental health services in Australia

Beyond BlueServices: Beyond Blue offers immediate support services through a help line, online web chats and email. They also offer information on mental health conditions for both people who are affected by them, as well as their families and friends. Help line: 1300 22 4636 Website: www.beyondblue.org.au

HeadspaceServices: Headspace is the National Youth Mental Health Foundation. If you're 12-25, you can get health advice, support and information from headspace. Headspace has more than 70 centres across Australia. Website: www.headspace.org.au

Sane AustraliaServices: Sane offers people affected by mental illness with support training and education. Their award-winning educational resources include guidebooks and ebooks, fact sheets, podcasts, videos, guidelines for health professionals, and magazine 'SANE News'. Help line: 1800 18 7263 Website: www.sane.org

Black Dog InstituteServices: The Black Dog Institute is dedicated to improving the lives of people affected by mood disorders through their high quality translational research, clinical expertise and national education programs. Phone: (02) 9382 2991 Website: www.blackdoginstitute.org.au

LifelineServices: Lifeline offers 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention services. You can contact Lifeline through their help line and through an online chat service. Help line: 13 11 14 Website: www.lifeline.org.au

The Butterfly Foundation

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