Last week, a new kind of gender gap was uncovered, and this time it had to do with our orgasms.
A research team determined that heterosexual women were being hit the hardest by what they termed the ‘orgasm gap’, with only 65 per cent reaching orgasm, compared with 95 per cent of heterosexual men.
Gay and bisexual men were reported to orgasm 89 per cent of the time, followed by 86 per cent of lesbian women, with bisexual women coming in at 66 per cent.
Women, we desperately need to talk. Mia Freedman, Monique Bowley and Jessie Stephens argue about whether it’s ever okay to fake an orgasm on this week’s episode of Mamamia Out Loud. Post continues below.
Thus, it appears to be not so much a female issue, as an overwhelmingly hetero one.
The report published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, attempted to explain why.
Firstly, greater importance is placed on men’s orgasm than women’s. Heterosexual sex is culturally bookended by a) a male erection and b) male ejaculation. Neither of which, in any way, guarantee a female orgasm.
Secondly, given the way sex is represented in popular culture and pornography, it is incorrectly assumed that women orgasm from penile-vaginal intercourse alone, which often is not the case.
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I don't know a man who deserves a fake orgasm.
My ex partner and I had a pact. I asked her to never fake an orgasm and she never did. I wanted to earn that orgasm from her. If she couldn't or didn't feel it was going to happen, she'd tell me and I was ok with it. Intimacy is not just about the end result but the journey to get there. I always wanted her to orgasm before I did, because as a man, it's easy for me to do so. So, as a male, I'd rather you didn't fake it, ladies, just be honest because that means next time, I'm going to do my best to ensure you also get the reward!
Legend!
You da bomb!
Thanks 😊
I agree. My hubby is very much the same.....he's a little old fashioned "ladies go first type".... works for us.