Yes, yes, we know Tony Abbott believes young women should treat their virginity as a precious gift to bestow only on their future husband on the wedding night. I’m not particularly dissing that view – so long as he’s only applying it to his own daughters (who will, no doubt, ignore him just as daughters have ignored their fathers since the dawn of time) and not all women.
But the idea of WHEN is the right time to have sex? That’s a perennial dilemma, isn’t it? And it can be very very difficult to know the answer.
Lara* writes
How did you know if and when it was right, where were you, was it special, were you super ninja sneaky and all that?None of my friends have lost theirs yet, and it would be nice to have some comparisons.
Since you all have the luxury of being fairly anonymous here in your comments but I don’t, forgive me for being a little…. short on detail about my own experience of virginity loss. Suffice to say I thought I was TOTALLY ready and I probably wasn’t. However it was with my first love, a beautiful guy and we were IN LURVE. And he didn’t drop me afterwards. I still look back on that relationship with much fondness.
Your turn. And what advice would you give Lara? My personal feeling is that, while only she can know, 16 months in teenage time is like 16 years in adult time. Lara? You sound ready to me. And your boyfriend isn’t even paying me to say that.
Just make sure you use a condom, y’hear?
Top Comments
I was older than i thought i would be. It was a one night stand, and it was in NYC. But i don't regret it for one second, and can't really believe i did it when i look back! Sex is serious, but also fun, and political, and dramatic, and scary and everything else. I think if you've already been fooling around, and you have an emotional connection, then it's not necessarily and massive leap, and wherever the relationship may end up, you will be glad you were with him at the time.
Wait till he pops the question ! No way otherwise ! Yeah righht just do it and have a fabulous time he sounds purfect
Enjoy!