Debates about children and their right to privacy always astound me, particularly when it comes to smart phone use. I am an out and proud stalker of my children via technology, having given each of them a phone of their own to make my monitoring of them easier.
Thank you technology.
But there are still parents who feel as though they don’t have a right to keep a close eye on their children’s smart phone use, even though their kids are their legal responsibility until they are 18.
A mother has posed the question “Should I have access to my nearly 12-year-old’s dd’s [daughter’s] phone” and on parenting forum Mumsnet and the resounding response was “hell yes”.
So far I have always known her password but now she’s changed it. I check her messages etc every so often. She knows this and has changed the password more than once. She is sensible and I don’t think she would do anything daft online and I’ve spoken to her about messages from people she doesn’t know (she says sh3 just blocks them instantly). Should I just leave her to it and let her have privacy?
Because, apparently, being a neglectful parents means being a good parent. Until something happens to your child and then you’re the worst parent in the world.
We can’t win, and that’s why we should just parent in a way that makes us feel comfortable.
I’m yet to meet a mother of adolescent and teenage children who don’t worry about their smart phone use, concerned about predators and bullies who can potentially contact them using a device we have purchased for them.
So the answer is of course this mum should have access to her 12-year-old daughter’s iPhone and should do until her daughter turns 18.