When what you feel about the Royal Baby isn’t what you expected. This is for you.
Today is a happy day. A joyful day. A new baby has been born (many new babies actually but one especially famous one) and that’s always a happy day.
The first pics: The Duchess and Duke leave the hospital with the new baby princess.
Except when it’s not. While the world celebrates and the media goes into an almost hysterical orbit over the birth of the royal baby, there are some women who will not be feeling joy today. Instead, they may be secretly feeling sad or inadequate or envious or a complex cocktail of melancholy they don’t even know how to articulate.
They may also be feeling quietly and profoundly ashamed. Ashamed that their bodies have not been able to make a baby or sustain a baby or successfully deliver a baby. Ashamed that they’ve never been able to hold a beautiful, pink, warm newborn while swathed in hospital sheets and bathed in heady congratulations. Compounding this even further is the shame that they feel somehow flat and disconnected from the global celebration over the royal baby news.
It’s a lonely, difficult place to be and we wanted to share this post because we know so many women who will be feeling this way today. Many of them are close to me and struggling with infertility or IVF or grieving the loss of a newborn or miscarriage.
Top Comments
Yes Beck you are spot on. It doesn't matter how many years pass. A woman who has not been able to have a pretty little bundle in pink, feels this.
Immense joy for Kate William and family. But then the deep feeling of what's been lost? Resonates with me.
Ugh I so feel this. I have not been pregnant yet but we have been trying for now over a year. Babies being born now just make me think "that could be me". And then a friend announced her pregnancy the other day - they got pregnant the first damn month!
Just have to swallow my frustration and smile. Jealousy is not pretty but it it's hard follow through on the choice to be happy for people successfully.