When proposing to my girlfriend, Kelly over the Christmas/New Year break I expected the Hollywood movie scene bit: she would gasp, she would cry, then smile then say ‘yes’.
Yeah… Turns out I should have had a plan B ready to roll.
I wanted to nail the proposal because I’ve had a long held belief that a proposal of marriage is the most romantic moment a couple can share. It’s private, it’s personal and it’s the moment where you say ‘I want to be with you forever, I want to commit to you forever, no-one will ever make me as happy as you do, you are the one’.
Men are often at the wrong end of a woman’s scorn for our inability to commit. So trust me, when the proposal comes we (a) mean it and (b) are nervous as hell asking the question.
We’d been together two years and I decided it was time.
I started preparations in October when I gave a jeweler my budget. We agreed that I should propose with just a diamond then Kelly could design the ring herself – how very 2013 of us!! I thought about it daily for the next two months and never wavered in my commitment to the proposal but became more and more obsessed with it being perfect.
Fast forward to Christmas Eve – we had that morning arrived at the Singita Ebony lodge in Kruger National Park, South Africa. At 4pm we headed out on safari and saw four lions walk right past our open top vehicle, there was rhino with baby, hippos galore, hundreds of buffalo gathering at a watering hole, a lone leopard, impala, kudu, warthog, zebra, eagle and giraffe.
My girlfriend is a committed animal lover and when the safari ended at 7pm she described it as one of the highlights of her life. Perfect!! Now, let’s get back to the lodge, so I can put a diamond-shaped cherry on top of your already perfect day.