I understand the idea of gender disappointment, to a certain degree. I got pregnant quickly after my second was born, then miscarried, and ultimately we decided to try again - there are five years (+ a week) between 2 and 3. My husband wanted to know the sex because he didn't want to be disappointed, hoping for a daughter. With three boys, I couldn't be happier, and looking back we both agree I wasn't meant to have girls. I believe these things are already decided for us. As for the FIFO comment, anyone who has ever been in a FIFO relationship (especially last year) would know it's the stupidest comment you can make to someone. We've done FIFO for years now and it's only marginally better with older kids - they still need parenting and can be more difficult as teenagers.
Oh, and I love my boys to bits, I can only say we've done something right, as with one young adult and two twenty-somethings, they still talk to us.
gotta love this. I'm finally on trend! ha. I prefer the term 'bed head' as a good friend puts it, and I totally own it.
I had an emotional affair several years. Our marriage is better than ever. I feel worthy. Loved. 'complete'.