Thank you for this article. I am coming up to 4 years since my son died at 26 days old. This is the only time I've read anything that describes exactly what my husband and I have been through in the aftermath of our sons death. I am a different person and despite knowing what I've been through there seems to be a wish by people for the old me to come back exactly as you say. But she never will and plenty aren't willing to accept that. To accept a human being to remain in grief forever or to be changed forever ...but then they know they can't face the thought of it happening to them....then why the lack of understanding and acceptance of how profoundly someone would be changed by such a tragedy? Surely friends and family can see we need you to accept us. Want to be there for us. We have been through life's gratest tragedy. Surely as another human being it's your duty??