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Marianne Timbrell-Chapman February 5, 2020

I can't express enough how very, very tragic this event is. My heart goes out to the families of everyone involved in this.

I fully get when people say - we need to make our individual decision not to get behind the wheel of a car after we have been drinking - I totally agree with this. You would think any rational, sane person would - it should go without saying.... however....

Alcoholism is a terrible disease - and it is a disease. When someone who is an alcoholic takes a drink - all the best intentions, willpower and the personal moral choices of that person are out the window. You see when an alcoholic takes a drink - they have no control over how many drinks after that they will take - it may be 2 or it may go on for days. This is the dilemma. Every alcoholic I have met (and I've met many) have sworn off it time and time again - the guilt and remorse that is felt the day after is immeasurable for many - this can range from too much money spent, arguments, loss of income, breakdown of family, drink driving and tragically what occurred to this beautiful family over the weekend.

I have met people who would do anything for their children - they would literally put their hand in boiling oil to protect their children - but they have a drink and all their best intentions are soluble in that glass of grog.

I am not saying that the driver in this case is an alcoholic, that is not for me to say, but if he is he needs to get the help to not pick up that first drink ever again. There are ways to do that - I personally know this to be 100% true. If anyone reading this feels that all their best intentions dissolve in alcohol and have ever woken in the morning full of fear, guilt remorse - then you need to do something to not take that first drink - ever again.

It is all well and good to say don't drink and drive - and for the majority of people who enjoy a social drink or two (or even 10) but don't fall into the category of alcoholic - then this is possible. If you are an alcoholic - then you need to never take that drink in the first place.

I will conclude in saying there needs to be less of a stigma on alcoholism - it is a serious disease - it kills people everyday - it destroys lives - but it is a disease - an illness - that can be relieved one day at a time.

Marianne Timbrell-Chapman February 13, 2019

Totally agree with you dee. In the beginning they even kept saying "hasn't had man to woman sex" etc. I think the twist will be that Matt runs off with Sam - LOL. Seriously though - the big twist will be the Matt Coming Out show (which the producers of this show have already got written). I hate stereotyping but Matt is sooo gay. I say that as a lesbian myself. And while I'm at it - Lauren - you never used to be a lesbian - it's not something you do for a little while - you just happened to have had sex/relationships with women - big difference!!!

Marianne Timbrell-Chapman November 27, 2018

You'd have thought they'd have learnt from the first release of little plastic rubbish. At least I've had the opportunity to teach my grand-daughter NOT to support companies that kill our marine life!!

Marianne Timbrell-Chapman November 13, 2018

OMG. I can't believe this. It seems that it is all about you. Like your wife is just a commodity that has to "fit in" and remember to think about you all the time. Didn't you both decide to have children together? It sounds like it is quite easy for you to just hook up (even though that took time), with someone else and lie in bed all day - what was your wife (the mother of YOUR children) doing during this time - and what is she doing now? You get to think all about yourself and when you aren't getting the intimacy YOU want - you walk. And I can imagine you get to be the awesome weekend Dad when you do see your children - you still don't have to bother with the daily work that involves raising children.
Selfish - you were given a gift to raise your children with your wife who you say you loved. Your responsibility as a human was to nurture and be a part of a awesome job of growing little humans into well adjusted, resilient and loved adults - you failed. Good luck with getting all your emotional needs met for the rest of your life.