Interesting how many here respond with condemnation, i.e. the assumption of complete fault on the parents part. I know I wasn't a perfect father but I also know I wasn't a monster. I know I have some narcissism which is generational (see Alice Walker). I've worked on those in therapy and with my mother. I also know some of the accusations are, to be generous, truly believed by my daughter and absolutely false in my recall. I couldn't forget them or live with myself if they were true. Regardless I have made an offer to hear her complaints without refute, only acknowledgement of hearing her, apology for any pain I have caused, and offer to amend in any way possible. I send this offer with a greeting 2x/year. Enough to let her know I'm always open without being too much to harass. I'm truly sorry she has chosen to hold the grudge for years as that is toxic and I would never wish that for her. I have chosen to forgive for the pain and carry on with my life, living with the pain of the grief of a lost child but with the joys of life as well.