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estherbell May 14, 2022

Love this!! Such a great message - and after all it’s your money and your right to decide what to do with it! Go fill that cup 🥑💃🏻🥂✨

estherbell April 27, 2022

As a mum who works in a very flexible and supportive work environment (public service), I would agree with the sentiment here 100%. If a job can be done flexibly, there’s no real reason why only those with kids should benefit from this! I would say however that for caring responsibilities you would usually use your own carers leave (if available) and this isn’t limited to children - it can be taken for any caring responsibilities as highlighted in this article!

One issue is i do feel discussion of flexible work on this site tends to only address those in secure, high- paying, office-based roles - rarely do they consider women (many of whom are mothers) who work in industries where such flexibility isn’t possible or where work is less secure: teaching, nursing, aged care, childcare.. this isn’t a criticism of this author but I do think it’s an issue that these articles about working mums/flexibility/etc are targeted to only a (largely privileged) demographic 

estherbell April 12, 2022

@guest500 such a great point and I totally agree with you and this article! This is no criticism to anyone who experiences gender disappointment but it’s definitely advisable not to have a set idea of how your children/family should be - which isn’t guaranteed by gender anyway! After all, having a daughter doesn’t mean they will necessarily enjoy certain activities, “look after you better in your old age” (🙄) or even be closer with their siblings as this author notes! It’s always best to just approach your kids as the unique people they are with no preconceived notions or expectations! 

estherbell February 23, 2022

Completely agree!! I’m born in 93 so also remember this time in fashion and how unfashionable you felt with boobs! I remember desperately wishing mine were smaller as a teenager (I’m a size D/DD) as I was so self conscious about them! I still hate that double standard that a woman with small boobs can wear a revealing dress and it’s high fashion (like Bec Judd’s famous red dress) and if you tried it with big boobs it would be seen as ‘trashy’ 🙄 so infuriating!! 

estherbell February 13, 2022

@laura__palmer THIS! It was honestly the softest of soft interviews - a shameless PR attempt after his embarrassing week 🙄

estherbell January 26, 2022

@cat this is a pretty bizarre response?! I’m not insinuating that women can’t work or need to be with their children full time! It’s honestly just a statement of fact - if you can’t find the time to be pregnant, finding time to be with your children is likely going to be challenging. And why on earth can’t you be pregnant at a press event - The two things aren’t exactly mutually exclusive! As a final point - while it’s v true most women don’t have the privilege to be with their child full time as they need to work (myself included), as that conversation is very much about class and wealth it seems odd to co-opt it when we’re discussing celebrities

estherbell January 25, 2022

I fully support ethical surrogacy and truly think there are so many beautiful ways to make a family! But these celebrities who say they chose is because they had no time to be pregnant just boggles the mind!! Like what do you imagine it’ll be like when you have a newborn/toddler/child? Will you have the time then? 

estherbell January 3, 2022

Isn’t a more likely explanation that the spider is googled the most because people are interested in trying it/have heard of it/don’t know what it is rather then it being the most popular sex position? I mean, no one needs to google missionary..

estherbell May 1, 2021

Hmmm the overall insinuation here seems to be that this extremely harsh criticism and judgment was justified as the author herself hadn’t experienced motherhood?? What?! News flash - you don’t have to have experienced something yourself to have empathy and care for others. What if one of your friends goes through something else you haven’t experienced (such as infertility issues etc ) - do you then deem it acceptable to judge them or even stop speaking to them because of those behaviours you can’t relate to?! This really hit the wrong cord with me tbh - especially as a new mum!