@myopinion I agree with you. If anything good happens in life it’s like people are expected to apologise. I managed to have two children against the odds and it is hard to see other people sharing baby news but the world is not going to stop and tiptoe around me just because I can’t have another child, nor should it. I’m finding my way through infertility (I had a hysterectomy - no ivf or anything is going to give me a baby) and when I find joy in things (including the children I do have) I don’t want to be shamed for being happy, or be expected to add addendums to any social media posts ‘acknowledging everyone who wants something that is good in my life but can’t have it’. We have to learn to live with our sufferings and truly appreciate the good that we do have in life.
I think she looks great for 50. She certainly looks natural which is a far cry from many other Hollywood celebrities her age. Funny, I bet if she were one to embrace junk food and brag about loving trashy tv and lounging around then we’d all being saying how gorgeous she looks. We’re allowed to hate her because she has unpopular opinions - that’s legitimately how the modern world works.
Having your tubes removed simply so you can say ‘I can’t’ rather than ‘I don’t want to have children’ sounds like a terrible idea. It’s not a painless process and people will never stop being nosy. If you plan to continue telling people that the surgery was for the purpose of saying ‘I can’t’ I hope you’re prepared for a whole lot more comments and judgement. I’ve had every feeling under the sun about having kids and I believed I would never regret a hysterectomy at age 28. I already had 2 ‘miracle babies’ and my pregnancies were so traumatic and my illnesses so debilitating that I trusted the doctors and felt relief for a very long time. Until I didn’t. And then I realised I would have to go through the rest of my pre-menopausal years explaining my situation or trying to shut down questions before I have to explain myself again. And to really underline how unpredictable and strong our hormones can be I was hit hard with longing for a baby harder than when I was actually having babies about 2 years after the hysterectomy. The fact that the hysterectomy was for medical reasons hasn’t helped the sense of complete and utter loss I feel. The fact that raising two kids is fucking hard work and I do cry some evenings doesn’t make the feeling of loss easier. Knowing that compared to my peers I’m not far away from slowly regaining my pre-kid freedom doesn’t help. I know you don’t want kids but once upon a time neither did I and once upon a time I didn’t want anymore than 2. And maybe you will never ever regret this decision - many people don’t regret the choice to not have children. But you don’t have to undergo irreversible surgery just so you can say ‘I can’t’ instead of ‘I don’t want to’.
Well the person who wrote this article definitely shouldn’t have children. The reality is you give up a lot to have children and the rewards aren’t necessarily immediate. It’s damn hard work and parents need community support. If all the women this writer knows married ‘pretty average blokes’ that probably says a lot about the women too. Most of the mothers I know are the primary caregivers but the men are not useless by any means. We all leave the kids with our partners if we go to girls’ brunch.
Wow. The government is intentionally creating a society where we discriminate based on medical choices of all things! It’s not even legal to do that! None of this ‘road map’ is legal. Pressuring people into accepting medical treatment and then literally segregating society into the vaccinated and the unvaccinated is horrific in a world where we should know better. What a waste of decades fighting for equality to have it brought down by a personal choice (which it is definitely illegal to force to be made public through QR code’s and the like) to choose or not choose a vaccination!