13yrs of domestic violence physical, financial, sexual, when I met my husband I was confident independent and motivated loved life he showered me with cars nights out jewellery ect within the first 2yrs He'd isolated me from everyone controlled every aspect of my life in a way I didn't even notice in 13yrs I was pregnant 7 times he said my job was to be a mum and to stay home cause I was good at that, he kept me busy so I didn't have time for anything else, He nicknamed me oby for obese but when I lost 57kgs he told his mates he hated the attention I received and would punch me in the car on the way home telling me I was flirting, he made sure he got me pregnant again, I was only allowed to leave the house to go food shopping and pick the kids up, He'd call while I was at the shops, he would tell me I was lucky to be with him as all the girls wanted him and noone would ever love me or be seen in public with me,he said his friends would ask him what he was doing with someone like me, He'd drag me out of bed in the middle of the night saying he knew I was cheating on him he gave me everything and I was an ungrateful slut,one night he was acting really strange staring at me but not talking following me around the house then he snapped chocking me till I passed out and stomped on my head,7yrs on the scares have healed but the psychological effects will stay with me forever, it took me 3yrs to realise I was allowed to leave the house and go wherever I wanted I didn't have to ask, he still tries to control me by not paying child support then out of the blue will send a message saying he'll give me $5000 if I do things his way on his terms, I don't think so he is no longer a part of mine or our kids lives,I live in a dv safe house I dont sleep at night and I dont shower if noone is home I suffer from complex ptsd and anxiety I dont go out at night and I have major trust issues, but if you ask him, he treated me like a princess and he didn't hit me that hard being a professional boxer he knew how to pull the power back... your comment about labour, I'd been in labour 19hrs and I said to him can you please rub my back he replied Ive been sitting in this uncomfortable chair for hrs how about you rub mine, I ended up having an emergency c-section he was told he could stay with me the night but he said there was no way he was laying on that uncomfortable bed when he could go home