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jsto55 April 3, 2023

@odessa3 they are their brothers- also twins 

jsto55 August 20, 2022

No one can say it as well as Holly Wainwright. Smart, witty and articulate and helped me put words around my feelings on this very divisive topic. Thank you Holly!  

jsto55 June 1, 2022

Beautiful Leigh. Just beautiful đź’•

jsto55 May 25, 2022

@StevenB Christchurch mosque shooting? 

jsto55 April 10, 2022

@mamamia-user-482898552 đź’Ż! Such a frustrating argument and a massive insult to people who desperately want to have children but are struggling - the comments they receive is appalling. 

jsto55 April 9, 2022

I loved this article! I think you’re spot on. Once again, this binary choice is not one that men really cop in the same way. I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea that it’s “selfish” not to have kids. Full disclosure, I have two, and the more I experience motherhood, the more I argue having kids can be seen as the more selfish path. Like many people want to replace them selves, see themselves in their children to live vicariously through them and hopefully see them achieve the things they were never able to.. It’s not all altruistic intentions imho! 

jsto55 December 31, 2021

Once again Leigh you articulate what I had believed was a private (shame-ridden) thought in a way that makes many mums feel seen. I relate to this so much. I often think of that pink song leave me alone “Go away, come back. Go away, come back. Why can't I just have it both ways?” Not that I want my babies to go away at all but I relate to that tension of “I want my old life but I can’t imagine my life without you here always”. It’s a wild ride. Thank you ❤️

jsto55 October 13, 2021

Thank you just thank you. You have summed up perfectly how I feel as a mum of two gorgeous boys and how I’m sure many other women feel as well xx

jsto55 May 30, 2021

Couldn’t agree more. The pressure I felt to breastfeed “or else” absolutely contributed to my post natal anxiety... and for what gain? I’ve happily mix fed both my kids and they are happy and healthy and just as importantly- so is their mum 

njl842 January 12, 2021

Absolutely beautiful writing. I’m fortunate to have never experienced a miscarriage but this still punched me in the guts so I can only imagine what it would do for those amongst us that have experienced it. You’ve articulated the sheer weight of the trauma so beautifully and I have insight now into friends that I have a suspicion have faced into miscarriage (as they have never dared share their story).  I wish you well as you rebuild.  Thank you x