I'm so happy you have said that golden phrase "fed is best". I struggled to breastfeed my newborn son due to poor supply after a traumatic birth and being a big baby. After I spent 24 hours listening to him scream in hunger between almost continually breastfeeding, I put him onto formula with expressed breast milk. I felt greatly judged by midwives and fellow breastfeeding mothers, it was devastating and brought me to tears many times. At a time I should have been at my happiest I felt guilt ridden and shamed by those I needed support from. In the end I also have a thriving 13 week old son who is no longer screaming out of starvation but smiling, my mother in law put it best "there is more to being a mummy than feeding"