I was late enrolling my son for school next year.
He starts Prep (that’s Victorian-speak for Kindergarten) at our local primary school next year; we slipped the paperwork in, just in time. Although, having said that, I was completely prepared to take the poor kid on the first day of school next year and basically stage a sit-in until they put him in a classroom.
I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it a few weeks ago. She’s very organised, in a way I’ll never achieve. She was horrified that we had left it so late.
And she was also horrified that we hadn’t visited the school first, nor had we visited or investigated any other schools. She asked me, ‘what if the school isn’t right for him? What if he needs a different environment? What if, what if, what if?’ We talked at cross purposes for half an hour. I genuinely didn’t understand what she meant.
It's up to him to adapt to the environment he finds himself in. Because that's life. You don't get the red carpet rolled out for you in adulthood. You'll find yourself in all sorts of situations that don't necessarily 100 percent suit you; and you learn to adapt and find your way through.
She's one of my dearest friends, and I adore her. But we have a very different outlook on life, and a very different outlook on parenting.
My approach is that my kids will only get certain opportunities in the world, the kinds of opportunities that most kids get, but that it's up to my kids to make the most of them. I'll help and nurture my kids as much as I can, but I'm not going to deliberately set out to give them special opportunities, exclusive opportunities.
Top Comments
I think if you live in an area within the catchment of a good public school - this is an easy choice.
Unfortunately for us, the public school in our area is not great. I want my child to go to a top school with the best education possible. My husband and I both did really well at school, however my end results were adversely affected by the scaling of my below-average school. I was scaled down in EVERY subject -including calculus, physics, chemistry, Literature - whereas my husband was scaled up in every subject.
So our choice is either private - or we buy in a better area, which will end up costing around the same!!
The author has clearly never been profoundly unhappy with a teacher/school that was utterly unwilling to redress either a bad teacher (yes they do exist), drug addicted school staff, teachers that clearly don't know who your child is, or that actually don't inform you that nasty $hit is going down cuz then they'd have to fix something. I thrived in the public system but a run of crappy experiences and staff that closed ranks prompted me to remove my son to a fee paying school.
My kids are pretty robust, intelligent and socially savvy but my experience lead me to believe that among the wonderful teachers (like the ones i had) were some exceedingly bad ones that the public system had no interest in dealing with. For us it was about choice.
Schools know who the bad teachers are, but the Teachers Union had made it too difficult to get rid of them. Most schools just have to put up with the bad teachers, hope they will retire early, encourage them to transfer to another school or promote them to management to get them out of the classroom.