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Dilemma: Is it okay to ask your partner to stop watching porn?

 

Men watch it, women watch, couple’s watch it together and it’s the most searched for content on the internet. But there are also people that don’t like porn.

Watching porn is a personal choice, but what about when that choice is taken away. How would you feel if your partner told you you were no longer allowed to watch it? Because that’s the predicament one young man has found himself in.

A guy on Reddit has been with his girlfriend for six months, and she has just asked him to stop watching porn.

His girlfriend wants him to stop watching porn.

The 25-year-old isn't sure what to do because his (also 25-year-old) girlfriend says she asks all her partners to cut off their porn habit at this point in their relationship.

However, the girlfriend reads erotic novels and thinks that is completely okay. She says because it's only imagination, it's not the same as watching porn.

When this man asked his girlfriend why she had a problem with it she told him that it was something she didn't feel comfortable with in a relationship.

"She said that pornography is demeaning and hurtful to women, creates negative and unfair images of women in people's minds, and creates unfair standards for women. She said she also doesn't feel comfortable that her partner looks at other women, even if it is actresses or strangers, in that way for pleasure, and that if we're at a point where the relationship can go further and become more serious, then porn is a no-go," the Reddit user wrote.

She doesn't feel comfortable with him watching porn. At all.

When asked if it was a jealousy thing, his girlfriend said it may have partially been because of that, but her boyfriend said that it almost sounded like she considered it a very slight form of cheating.

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"I was a bit taken back," he wrote.

He explained to her that the women in porn don't mean anything to him and that he only watches it occasionally to 'relax'. He went on to say there was no emotional connection at all.

There was no emotional connection for him.

The girlfriend's ultimatum was, if he stopped watching porn, she would have more sex with him.

But he doesn't think porn and sex serve the same purpose.

His girlfriend said that this was something very important to her, that she feels very strongly about it.

"I asked her if she'd stop reading her erotica, she said of course not, because that did not involve any pictures of actual people, and it was just imaginary. I thought this was extremely hypocritical and unfair," The Reddit user wrote.

She says erotica novels are different.

He said he would think about it, and she said she'd give him time and hoped he would make the right decision.

"I'm afraid I might say yes just to make her happy, but I might end up one day giving in and watching porn anyway, so I don't want to make any promises I'm not sure I'll be able to keep," he wrote.

This boyfriend needs help. He wants to know if he should be honest and admit he thinks her request is unfair, or should he accept her request and try to do it - with the potential for him to fail her?

What do you think he should do?