Seeing Red: Why Taylor Swift Has Us Re-Evaluating Age-Gap Romances

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Seeing Red: Why Taylor Swift Has Us Re-Evaluating Age-Gap Romances

In our late teens and early twenties, many of us date someone who is a little or even a lot older as we experiment with romance, but have your feelings about that relationship changed now you look back on it years later?

Perhaps what seemed like fun at the time now feels a bit creepy or even exploitative? This is the very question that singer Taylor Swift is encouraging us to reflect on, through her own experience dating a much older Jake Gyllenhaal when she was just 20. 

The Quicky speaks to a relationship expert to consider whether age-gap romances where one person is very young can ever be based on equality, or if the older person is always taking advantage for power, status, or simply their own sexual gratification.

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Host: Claire Murphy

With thanks to: 

Julia Nowland - Relationship Therapist and Founder of Whole Heart Relationships

Producer: Claire Murphy

Executive Producer: Siobhán Moran-McFarlane

Audio Producer: Ian Camilleri

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