Everything you need to know about Penn Badgley and Domino Kirke's unique love story.

If you’re anything like us, when you saw Penn Badgley’s face pop up on Netflix’s splash a few weeks ago promoting creepy thriller YOU, your mind probably went straight to Gossip Girl.

It is, after all, the role the 32-year-old actor is best known for. But Badgley has done quite a bit in the six years since he finished playing Brooklynite Dan Humphrey on the hit teen drama in 2012.

In fact, there’s a lot people don’t know about Badgley.

Not only is the actor married to the sister of a well-known actress, he’s also a step-father to a nine-year-old boy.

In 2017, Badgley married Domino Kirke, sister of Girls star Jemima Kirke (who plays Jess on the show).


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Although the beginning of the couple’s relationship was kept relatively quiet, it’s believed the pair started dating back in 2014, three years before they wed.

In recent interviews, Kirke has admitted that she wasn’t very serious about their relationship when they initially began dating.

“I was sort of getting used to being a single mum, maybe a little too used to it. I had a really good thing with my kid and we were like this little team,” Kirke told Hey Mama.


“Penn and I were dating, but it wasn’t nearly as serious as it is now, of course. I didn’t think marriage was in the cards for us. So I was sort of just chugging along, surviving and getting through the days, and I think the difference now is that I’m really living.”

At the beginning, Kirke also wasn’t keen on dating an actor – especially considering both of her sisters are working in the profession.


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“I was like, ‘Ugh, actors’… and then I married an actor,” the 36-year-old told WWD.

Eventually, their relationship transformed into a much more serious one and before long, they were married – not once, but twice.

“It all happened quite quickly,” Kirke admitted.

“I got married and it was a bit of a whirlwind I wasn’t expecting for the next phase for Penn and I,” she told i-D.

“To be honest, it came as a huge surprise.”


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The couple had two wedding ceremonies in 2017.

In February, the couple exchanged vows in a small courthouse ceremony in Brooklyn.

They followed up their intimate wedding with a big reception in June 2017 in upstate New York.

The event was attended by a number of celebrity guests, including Debra Messing, Zac Posen and Mariska Hargitay.

Speaking to People in September, Badgley shared how he believes his faith led him to his relationship with Kirke.

“I don’t think I could truly value human love until I developed divine love,” he explained.

“[Domino and I] very much had a romantic beginning, and I think that you discover in marriage that what sustains a marriage for decades – there are less and less people who can tell us this – but I think it has something to do with [divine] love.”


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Besides marrying Kirke, Badgley has also taken in Kirke’s son from a previous relationship as his step-son.

The couple now live together with nine-year-old Cassius, whose father is Kirke’s ex-boyfriend musician Morgan O’Kane.

To the surprise of many, Badgley is also a musician.

After finishing up with Gossip Girl, Badgley formed the band MOTHXR, of which he is the frontman.

It started off as a passion project – but by 2016 it became a full-time gig for the singer, who’s still performing with the band.

Kirke also has a musical background.

Although she previously had her own band named DOMINO, the singer has recently released her first solo album.

The mum-of-one also works as a doula.


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“I’ve definitely gone from a show, where I’m in full makeup, the whole thing, straight to a birth, and I’ve come home from those births being like, I don’t know if I can do this anymore. I feel like a double agent,” Kirke told W Magazine.

Before marrying Kirke, Badgley dated a few famous faces.

On-screen romance turned real when the actor started dating Blake Lively, aka Serena Van Der Woodsen, during their time on Gossip Girl.

The pair denied they were in a relationship at the time, only admitting it publicly years later.

The couple, who were together for three years, then had to spend another four seasons filming together after they split up.

He then dated Zoe Kravitz from 2011 to 2013, getting romantically involved with his now-wife the following year.

Haven’t seen YOU yet? Here’s the trailer: 

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