By EVA BOTANY
Remember the days when a gentleman would go out and buy an engagement ring, and then hire a flash mob/book a nice holiday/find a restaurant and a nice dessert for said engagement ring to be hidden in, and then eventually get down on one knee and pop the question: will you marry me?
Say goodbye to those days. Wave as they pass you by in a whirlwind of dead traditionalism. And if you’re hoping to get engaged soon? Prepare to pull out your credit card.
Because, according to a new survey by wedding website The Knot, more and more couples are choosing to split the costs of engagement rings. Forty six per cent of women surveyed said that they’d be happy to share the cost of a diamond ring. Comments on their Facebook post about the issue varied from “welcome to the women’s rights movement, ladies” to “why should the man have to pay for a ring solely?”
I can see the arguments towards sharing the cost of an engagement ring. I really can. So you don’t have to go bringing them up for me.
I know that rings can be really expensive and that it’s unfair to expect a a gentleman have to go broke for you, if you specifically want something that costs $15,000.
I know that women now have the opportunity to earn equally as much, if not more than their male counterparts these days, and that they’re in a perfectly good position to cough up some cash for that Tiffany rock.
I know that so many couples already live together these days and share expenses long before they’re married, so that it makes sense to purchase the ring as a couple. After all, you have to wear it (hopefully) for the rest of your life.
I know that on many economic and logical levels, the argument for equal payment towards an engagement ring does make perfect sense.
But I’d like to step away from logic for the minute and admit that I have absolutely zero interest in going halfsies on an engagement ring- or even negotiating my way down to, say, paying 25 per cent of the cost.
Like so many other girls, I’ve always looked forward to the proposal that I will hopefully one day obtain from an amazing gentleman. I’ve envisioned the moment so many times in my head.
I’m not terribly fussed about too many details. I don’t mind where the proposal takes place and I don’t have my mind set on a particular ring. I don’t care if it’s a vintage ring or one handed down from his great-grandmother. I just want there to be a ring and a general understanding that it’s something he pays for. Not me.