This woman was sick of the cliches that kept rolling out about parenting. So she wrote some new ones of her own.
Sometimes the greatest gift we can give one another is the reminder that we are not alone in our struggles.
So far, so many lessons I’ve learned from parenting are clichés — “The days are long and the years are short,” and other aha! that’s why they said that sentiments. However, just because they are clichés does not make them untrue. Many of my feelings about parenting are in fact not unique, but surprisingly, that gives me comfort — because maybe, just maybe, you feel the same way too. It feels good to be able to share our own truths about parenting to provide insight and encouragement about the most excruciating and exhilarating roller coaster ride around. Welcome to parenthood, make sure you enjoy the ride.
I am lonely
There are days I am surrounded by people yet still feel unbearably alone. We are humans passing by each other all day long, often without ever really connecting, everyone knee-deep in their own life. Many of us simultaneously busy and bored all at once. Most of us have so much in common and we don’t even know it because we are afraid to put ourselves out there. The single mum, the working parent, the parent of a child with special needs, the stay-at-home mum or dad — we all feel the lonely and think it’s because of our circumstance, but I think it’s a trait we all share at different times in our parenting cycle.
If we can tell the honest truth about how we are feeling, we can create beautiful and real opportunities to connect.
I am scared
I don't want to screw this parenting gig up. It's the most important work I've ever done, and it truly means a lot to me. I was walking through the aisles of my grocery store the other day, my two beautiful boys in tow. I read labels now like it's my job, and I'm damn good at it. I don't know who or what to believe any more, though. Money buys the latest brand of truth and that's not OK when it comes to what I put into my little ones' bodies. MSG in Campbell's Soup? Why? I had no idea. No Genetically Modified Organisms (GMOs). Easy -- except they are in almost every product containing sugar, corn and soy unless specifically marked 100% organic.
I hear avoid the synthetic food preservatives -- nitrates or nitrites which are in most meats. Stay away from red dye #40. Avoid gluten, soy and dairy, especially dairy products in which the cows were treated with growth hormones like rBST. Don't buy processed food. Watch out for the commercial nappies and soaps; they cause cancer. Some say, "Just buy all organic." Awesome -- I'll get right on that as soon as we win the lottery and have time to go to five different grocery stores every week. Not to mention I can't even get my 4-year-old to eat one single vegetable.