'Children are a lifestyle choice. So why should I pay for yours?'

“To pay a primary carer 26 weeks paid parental leave is idealistic at best. To pay them on the wage they earn normally, frankly, ridiculous.”






There’s a reason why I can’t write this post under my real name. You see, most of my friends have kids. I have god children and two nephews and a niece I adore.

But as a 43 year old woman without kids, it’s impossible for me to say what I really feel about the idea of the Liberal party’s  paid parental scheme because my parent friends would be horrified.

Before I continue, let’s get one thing straight – I love kids. I also agree that raising children is the cornerstone of society and as such, should be supported by taxpayers. To an extent, anyway.

But here’s another thing I believe strongly: all kids should be treated as equal by our government. As should the adults having them.

Which is why I am against Tony Abbott’s paid parental leave plan. Because it is not egalitarian – it is elitist. To pay a primary carer 26 weeks paid parental leave is idealistic at best. To pay them on the wage they earn normally is quite frankly, ridiculous.

Under Labor’s paid parental scheme, the Government pays a baby’s primary carer at the minimum wage, currently $622.20 per week for 18 weeks. In the current economic climate, this is more than fair. Meanwhile, the Coalition wants to introduce a 26-week replacement wage scheme where women earning up to $150,000 each year would be paid their full salary for the period of leave, including superannuation, which could be as much as $75,000 per pregnancy.


Take into account the fact that tax payer dollars also subsidise unlimited IVF cycles for all women of any age, and you start to wonder when there will be a ‘pushing tax’ put on us all as well.

Here’s an opinion you don’t often read, but if you ask me, it’s one that’s strongly held by many of us who are too frightened of the PC police to say it out loud: children are a lifestyle choice. They are not a right. If you want them, be prepared to pay for them. Your children. Your choice.

Kids cost time and money and are damn hard work. If you don’t feel you are in a position to accommodate them, even taking in to account current government subsidies, then maybe think twice about having them in the first place. Buy some condoms. Get a prescription for The Pill. Consider a termination.

Yes, it is ideal for women to be able to stay home for those important first few months of a child’s life but let’s face it, the pressure hardly stops there. There are limited daycare hours, doctors visits, school carnivals, speech nights and endless school holidays to accommodate. Kids are time consuming. Every minute with them vital. Realistically – if these early months are so important, and the ensuing months don’t get any less important – shouldn’t we be also be subsidising parental leave until around a child’s 14th birthday? That time appears to be the tipping point in the development of human behaviours outside the home and, as such, impacts larger society the most.


Then again, most parents with kids that age I know would probably prefer to work.

“There are limiting daycare hours, doctors visits, school carnivals, speech nights and endless school holidays to accommodate.”

But here’s what really gets me angry about Abbott’s plan and the seemingly ridiculous amount of attention focused on reproduction these days – having children is hardly a new concept.

Yes, it’s hard to manage in many senses, but hasn’t it always been? Shouldn’t people accept that the decision to procreate will mean going without some things like holidays or a new car or a private school education, in exchange for getting so much in return?

Amongst all this obsession with Generation Next is the sad fact that Generation Was is doing it tough. Too tough. Your government pension isn’t indexed to what you earned while you were working. The generations who had kids without government bonuses or complaint, who paid taxes their entire long working lives, and who are now attempting to exist below the poverty line….what about them?

It appears we are overlooking the seasoned and sage for the shiny and new in our rose tinted designer shades of today.

This all became resounding and clear upon reading this letter in a newspaper recently from Serena Ford, Strathmore.

“What political party is going to offer something to pensioners, or is their vote not considered as worthy as that of the younger generation who constantly have money thrown at them? My parents raised their children in an era with a meagre child-endowment payment. They did not expect a baby bonus or six months’ full pay just for choosing to have children. They didn’t need a new, shiny, black four-wheel-drive to be happy; nor did they need a house with a bedroom, bathroom and living room for each member of the family. They had no expectation that the government should fund childcare so that someone else could raise their children. They accepted that they went without some things. Now, like many pensioners, they have to make choices about what they can afford. How much more greedy and selfish can society become?

It’s a good question Serena. I fear that the answer is, sadly, as much as we will allow it.

What do you think about the Coalition’s proposed paid parental leave policy? Would you like to see a greater focus from politicians on our senior citizens?