This piece has been republished in light of Kate Langbroek’s comments on Deputy Prime Minister Barnaby Joyce’s affair with former staffer Vikki Campion. On Wednesday the radio host publicly condemned women that sleep with married men, saying, “It makes you a rotten person.” While many applauded, not everyone agreed. This is the other side of that conversation, from Jessica Michell…
I was the other woman.
This was despite everyone (society, media, professionals, acquaintances, family and friends) telling me not to. They commonly reference karma. They foresee how the story ends.
And still, I ignored them. I was hoping that we would be the exception to the rule. What I learned most of all, other than not to get involved with a taken man, was that society is still first to blame women. We are still quick to assume the woman was promiscuous or as the witch who enslaved our partners and led them astray.
I foolishly hoped that this would not happen to me. I mistakenly thought people who didn’t know me (or even people who did) would see that I wasn’t the monster.
Here is my story.
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you talk about women supporting each other, that is really a joke. You back stab another woman - you sound very selfish and immature.
I can relate to this. My partner and I met while we were in relationships with other people. We both weren't happy in our current relationships and something grew between us. It took us to become intimate once to accept what was going on and we immediately confessed to our partners and ended our relationships only to start dating each other.
I was called a vulture, stealing my partner from his ex, etc. yet what did my partner receive in return? "If there's a goalie you can still score."
Before I went through this I used to look down on anyone who cheated but upon it happening I've learned never to judge anyone else's relationships. You don't know what their circumstances are. If they're nothing to do with you, butt out. If they're your friend, while you may disagree with their choices, they deserve your support.