Let’s be real, divorce sucks.
It’s a lot like childbirth and if someone told you what it would be like, you might not ever do it. But then you’d regret it for the rest of your life. Sure, there are a few of those amicable divorces and the “conscious uncouplings,” but they are few and far between.
I was divorced in 2010. I asked for a divorce in 2008, but it took two years actually to get it done. And don’t think it’s because we were arguing over some tremendous fortune. Quite the opposite, we were arguing over tremendous debt.
It was ridiculous and took an emotional and physical toll on me. No one in my family had ever gotten a divorce, and my only friend who had divorced did it when she was in her early 20’s, and there were no kids involved. I was in uncharted territory. While I never expected it to be easy, I had no idea of some of the issues I would face.
Below are a few other things that no one ever told me about divorce that I wish I had known:
1. Family court is a horrible, toxic place.
The greatest piece of advice I give to people is that at all costs, avoid going to family court. You’ll end up spending money that you could have saved for retirement or your kid’s university fund. On top of that, a courtroom is one of the worst places I can imagine. It’s kind of like a zombie apocalypse.