Being dumped, it is a situation most of us have been in, whether it’s a boyfriend or girlfriend, even a friend, the majority of us have been on the receiving end of this unfortunate life event. But what about being dumped by your nanny? This recently happened by someone I know, to a family she was working for. And I think it was the best decision she could have made.
This nanny was hired by a family to pick up their three children from school each day and look after them for about two hours until their parents returned home from work. Her main role was to supervise but also to help with homework, so nothing too complex. Despite the seemingly simple nature of this position description she only remained working for them for approximately three months before she quit.
Every day, five times per week when this nanny, let’s call her *Eve, went to the primary school to pick up the three children, two boys and a girl, she was greeted by silence. Despite her best efforts to ask how their day was, to begin conversation, to build rapport with them, they offered a very rare one-word response but mostly it was either an occasional grunt or tumble weed rolling, cricket chirping, silence.
Eve started off approaching this situation positively. She has worked with many children and some take a little longer to create connections with, a bit more time before they will ‘come out of their shell’, so she persisted, day in, day out. Eve is always one to put in 110%, she is a young woman who is much adored by the families she works for and one to rarely give up. For months she continually attempted to develop a relationship with each of the three children but regardless of how she tried, nothing seemed to work.
It became clear that this relationship was very one-sided and unless some sort of Mary Poppins or Maria Von Trapp like miracle occurred, it just wasn’t going to work out.
With this realisation Eve became quite anxious about looking after the children. It made her, for the first time since working with kids, not want to go to her job. While she was there she was miserable, the kids seemed miserable, it was like two hours of emotional torture, for them all, five times per week and she just couldn’t see any other solution then to cut her losses and move on.
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This article has left me feeling quite annoyed.
My daughter has a condition called selective mutism which is like a form of severe social anxiety. She is often unable to speak to her teachers or even her peers. This is because her anxiety is so bad that it causes her to freeze , leaving her unable to respond to others, even when she really wants to. This has been an issue for years , and has not been caused by trauma or abuse. It is also definitely not about being rude to people, or not having respect for them.
Obviously I don't know the family in question but it is possible that the children could have this condition ( or similar) .
This article doesn't really explain why Eve didn't approach the parents sooner to express her concerns. If she's that good at her job , I'd expect her to deal with these issues a lot sooner.
I wonder if the parents had discussed any issues with Eve prior to her employment? The article doesn't really give many details does it?
Perhaps the writer, any Eve herself need to educate themselves and learn that people aren't factory pressed. We're a pretty diverse bunch.
I don't care what anyone says, there is something drastically WRONG in that family. Children do NOT simply stay silent like that for months on end unless they have been brainwashed or are being mentally abused or abused in other ways. The fact that the parents said nothing except "return the key" speaks volumes. What kid do you know that can keep their mouth shut and not answer questions, laugh, get mad, or react in some way to a person trying to engage with them? There's something rotten in Denmark.