It was a sad day in September 2012 when Julia Gillard and Tony Abbot sat side-by-side in parliament to vote against a House of Representatives bill to allow same sex marriage. The bill was defeated by 98 votes to 42.
Australia currently allows same-sex couples to enter civil unions in the Australian Capital Territory, Queensland, Tasmania, Victoria and New South Wales. They are only beginning to be recognised by other Australian states or territories. Some other countries, however, do recognise Australian civil unions, for example, the United Kingdom. In the United States, two significant cases regarding marriage equality are currently before the Supreme Court – one regarding the constitutionality of California’s Proposition 8 and the Federal Defence of the Marriage Act.
Read this story by Patty Onderko who is watching these two cases closely, dreaming of a day when her relationship is granted equal rights:
As a woman married to another woman, raising two kids, I've been watching the two cases — regarding the constitutionality of California's Proposition 8 and the federal Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) — that are before the Supreme Court. My first thought when I heard the news was, "yay!" and "exciting!" and "fingers crossed!" My Facebook profile photo has been updated to the red-and-pink equality sign from the Human Rights Campaign and I'm anxiously awaiting the SCOTUS's decisions.
My family's equal rights hang in the balance. What more is there to say? The truth is, I've been thinking about what these two cases mean to me — or would mean to me — for about 14 years, since I first met my wife, Emily, and fell in instant infatuation with her, despite never having liked a girl before. In fact, I've almost become tired of thinking about it. When it comes to grappling with the lack of equal rights for everyone — no matter how you're born or what you call yourself or who you choose to love — I feel like I’ve been through the stages of grief. When Emily and I first got together, I was so overwhelmed with love and excitement that I thought surely everyone would see my glow and concede that the whole anti-gay thing was a terrible idea. I thought the purity of my love alone would somehow be contagious. How could anyone deny me the right to marry Emily when I was so darn happy?? I was in capital-D Denial, for sure. As Emily and I melded our lives together more and more, the anger stage swept in and lasted much longer.