We hear you, pulling out the consequences, the naughty corner, the ‘no ice-cream for you’s. It’s exhausting, right? Meet the expert who thinks we’re wasting our time.
When mother and clinical psychologist Dr Shefali Tsabary talks, the mindful mothers of New York listen. And what she says, is that the worst thing a parent can do when their child misbehaves is punish them.
Already, I can you hear you thinking, “Well what am I supposed to do when they are out of control and hitting their sister?”
Dr Shefali says naughty children need attention, not punishment. She claims modern parents are failing their children by not being present enough and it’s no wonder kids are increasingly naughty, bullying others and shouting to be heard.
Misbehaviour is simply a cry for attention.
“When a child’s own voice has either been neglected or bullied into silence, the child can no longer respond to this voice, which is how they lose touch with the natural empathy,” she told The Australian Women’s Weekly.
So what does she say to mums who claim, “My child is out of control?” She basically says that if your child is naughty, it’s not their fault, it’s your fault.
Dr Tsabury has written a book called Out Of Control: Why Disciplining Your Child Doesn't Work. The launch attracted Wendy Deng, Deborra Lee Furness and Ivanka Trump, all there to hear Dr Tsabury say modern parents are forgetting to pay enough attention to their child, and she doesn't mean feeding them or washing their clothes.