Last year, Mamamia reported on the tale of Jian Feng, the man from Northern China who sued his wife for producing ‘ugly’ babies… and won.
Now that this photo of the family has been made public (NB: whose accuracy has been widely questioned), the whole world seems to be weighing in on whether or not the judgement was ‘fair’.
Feng’s wife had had plastic surgery before she met him and so he managed to win his case by arguing that she ‘misled him’.
Since we’re all talking about it, we thought we might revisit what our Publisher, Mia Freedman, had to say about the story last year…
A group of guys are sitting around nursing beers and complaining that their partners are no longer hot. “God, I wish Michelle would do some exercise,” sighs one. “I reckon she’s put on 15kg since I met her.”
His mates nod knowingly. “Tell me about it,” says another. “My wife looked incredible when we moved in together and she used to get up at six every morning to go running before work. Now? All she does is eat. She’s a circle.”
A third interjects, “My girlfriend’s hair is going grey and so are her undies! Big and grey. With holes. How am I meant to want sex when she looks so bad? It’s like she’s given up.” More nodding. “Would it really kill my wife to lose some weight?” someone else pipes up. “And not just so I’ll be attracted to her again although that would help. I’m actually starting to worry about her health. She’s got such a gut on her.”
Are your hackles up? Are you disgusted by such an ugly display of disloyalty and superficiality?
Substitute the beers for wine and the gist of the conversation was basically the same: people bitching that their partners had let themselves go and admitting it was a struggle to stay sexually attracted to them.
Would your response be different? Because this happened. I heard it. Well, I heard about it from a girlfriend who was at a BBQ last weekend.
In the fine Aussie tradition of mixed gatherings, she found herself in the kitchen preparing salads with the lady folk while the blokes clustered around the BBQ burning meat.
Observing the two groups, she was suddenly struck by the physical disparity. The women looked attractive and the men didn’t. “It was like they’d given up trying to look….not even hot, just presentable! They were all overweight and dressed terribly. Polar fleece. Nikes with jeans. Reefer sandals! They were no older than the women but they looked it.”
When one woman made a wry remark about her husband not having added to his wardrobe since 1999, it triggered an avalanche of empathetic laughter and eye rolling. Male weight gain was a common complaint from the women, along with their husbands not exercising and a general lack of care about their health or appearance.