Is it just me or do some exes not understand that it’s not okay to message someone who is now in a relationship?
Friends of the opposite sex can absolutely be friends and should exercise their right to talk and hang out. But, if you’re an ex, texting someone who’s in a new relationship, you need to stop. Not only for the happy couples’ sake, but for your own.
So here’s the issue that sparked these thoughts. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, we are very happy, in the process of moving in together and are planning another holiday together. But there is one thing that respectively, I am getting sick of… His ex girlfriend won’t stop messaging him.
We will use the term ‘ex girlfriend’ very loosely because they never formally had that discussion but dated intermittently for a year.
It all began when we first started dating, and he uploaded a picture of himself (looking mighty fine) at his annual footy ball. She commented “looking good” with a winking emoji. Naturally, that early into a relationship you don’t want to say anything to him about it but luckily, I didn’t have to. He brought it up the next day and unfriended her in the hope she wouldn’t contact him.
But she now slides into his Instagram DMs and says things like “I’m so glad to see that you’re happy”.
Now, if I could, I’d bet $1000 on what you’re all thinking: “Her boyfriend probably encourages it, that’s why she doesn’t stop”. But you’d be completely and utterly wrong.
I am not one of those women who thinks their boyfriend is a saint – I am not stupidly naive. But he has never done anything to prove that he encourages this behaviour. In fact, I am shown every message she sends, every comment, every like, and yet he still does not respond or encourage her.