There was a social media meltdown a few months ago when Mick Jagger was snapped with a brunette looking presumably post-sex-cosy on the balcony of his hotel room in Zurich last week.
It was a mere eleven weeks since the death of his long-term girlfriend L’Wren – a shockingly short period of mourning for a woman he spent 13 years with, according to most of the posts and comments.
Which begs the question: how long is the official mourning period supposed to be? What is the acceptable length of time someone like Mick is supposed to wait before being linked romantically to anyone else?
A quick survey of around a dozen friends settled on ‘at least a year’ - with the view that the longer the relationship, the longer the person should take to get over losing them.
But is there really a ‘one size fits all’ model for grieving? Particularly for someone struggling with desperately tragic and traumatic emotions triggered by a partner’s suicide?
I’ve seen people who I know loved their partner passionately, react very differently after losing them to either death or divorce.
Some dealt with death in a matter or fact fashion and got on with task of rebuilding their lives quickly.
Others never did recover, choosing instead to exist in a voluntary time warp, remaining faithful to their past, absent partners forever by reliving their memories on a mental conveyor belt, on a never-ending loop.
How we cope is dependent on our moral code, upbringing, personality, life experience, religion, maturity and a thousand other individual factors.
Some people deal with loss by disappearing under the duvet for months. Others drink their way through it or bury themselves in work.