The first example that springs to mind is Hamish Blake and Zoe Foster-Blake. The Aussie couple got married earlier this year and when they did, she took part of his name. But neither Zoe nor Hamish took each other’s addresses.
It’s widely known that while Hamish still lives in Melbourne where he works on his radio show with co-host Andy Lee, Zoe spends most of her time in Sydney.
In a couple of interviews with News Limited recently, Zoe’s said: “We are up and down and all over the place so I guess we will have to find ‘normal’ one day…. We want to live together. Hamish is worried about ending up like my parents who each spend time in their two homes in Bundanoon and Sydney. But that’s how their marriage has lasted.”
But Zoe and Hamish are not the only couple taking the less-traditional route.
Helena Bonham Carter and her husband Tim Burton live in adjacent homes in London. Woody Allen and Mia Farrow reportedly lived in homes on either side of New York’s Central Park back when they were married. And who knows how many people in Australia are living apart from their partners who are working in the mines.
New research has found that up to three million couples in the US are falling into the category of ‘living apart together.’ It might be choice or it might be circumstance but according to Nerve, those three million are three per cent of all couples in the US.
And apparently it’s a number that’s rising. This from Nerve:
The idea that if you like and love someone, then you ought to want to see their face every morning and night is a powerful cultural narrative.
But as gender roles continue to shift—now both men and women are equal partners capable of paying their own rent thank-you-very-much—the number of folks living independently while in a relationship is sure to rise.
Independent living arrangements within a committed, long-term relationship radically re-imagines what it is to be “serious” or “married”. It’s possible that this scenario will continue to play out more and more often.