If I had any more kids, I’d choose a caesarian every time. And here’s why.
I had three c-sections and I’m not ashamed.
I’m sick of all the shame surrounding c-sections. The silent suggestion that you didn’t really “give birth”.
I had three. So what? My children were born healthily and I recovered well. Does it really matter if I was forced to have them or if I chose to have them?
In my mind, c-sections are a gift and millions of mothers and children owe their lives to them. In fact, if I had to choose between c-sections and vaginal births, the choice is easy for me…c-sections every time.
My first c-section wasn’t planned. My son was in fetal distress because I have an “abnormally small pelvic bone” and despite the fact he was quite small, he was getting stuck. So I had an emergency c-section.
I asked if I could attempt a vaginal birth for my second child and my obstetrician said yes, but during my final ultrasound my son's head circumference was measured. He had a big head. So a c-section was booked in.
I was so relieved.
I chose a c-section for my third birth because by then I was fully aware of the benefits. It was a safer option for me and my child. And there were lots of other benefits:
1. I knew exactly when my children would be born.
I loved knowing when I was going to give birth. I had a date and a time. There would be no going into labour in the middle of the night for me, giving birth at 2am, having to wake up family.
I gave birth mid-morning at a civilised time after getting a good night's sleep.
2. I got to skip the whole painful labour thing.
I only got to experience early labour once and it wasn't funny at all. All those movies that show women panting and screaming, desperately clutching their partner's hands made it look quite amusing.