Sunday Life magazine announced yesterday that being a “retro housewife” is the hot new trend for Aussie mums.
It seems educated, intelligent women are ditching the boardroom in droves to stay-at-home and raise children in between craft activities and baking.
Author Alexandra Carlton has come under fire for asserting that: “around the country, tertiary-educated women who grew up steeped in girl power and feminism have turned their backs on a career.”
While the bickering has begun on the idea of the “retro housewife”, I wish we could get to a point where we see the value in both staying-at-home and taking part in the workforce. Each delivers benefits to a person and it is important to remember that (if you are lucky) your life will be long enough to enjoy a variety of experiences. There will be times where “leaning in” is important there will also be times when “opting out” will be rewarding and renewing for your personal growth.
Rather than trying to recapture a bygone era, I think the millenium housewife should market herself as a whole new breed. These women are juggling the school run with creating new business models in their work-at-home self employment, they are volunteering their former corporate skills within their local community and experimenting with new ways of melding motherhood and life.
Who knows perhaps one day their contribution will be seen as an important development in the feminism debate?
Staying-at-home is financially challenging (trust me we made huge sacrifices, my husband is a tradie, we weren’t doing this on a white-collar income), therefore it’s not an option for many. The majority of women aren’t working for personal gratification but to put food on the table and roof over their children’s heads. So for those who do get the chance to be at home I hope they don’t waste time arguing about who is the better parent but instead take the time to create new ways of building financial security from the kitchen table or leaving their community better for having had them engaged for a little while. If they do return to the workforce I hope they remember their stay-at-home experiences and go on to challenge the inflexible working practices and structural barriers to women (and men) combining parenthood and career.