Last week, iVillage posted the ‘heart-stopping’ story of the near-abduction of a six-year-old in Sydney’s Centennial Park… while a whole park-full of onlookers did nothing to stop it.
Yesterday, Fairfax Media described the story as a cautionary tale for our times.
The story is chilling. It was a near miss. I cannot imagine the frightening nature of your child being there one minute, gone the next. And the frantic minutes or hours that follow. Not to mention the confirmation of your worst fears: there was a narrow escape involving a predatory man in a public park.
But at the same time, I’m somewhat struck by the irony of a moralistic tale that warns parents about the danger of strangers while also highlighting the need for strangers to intervene – indeed –chastising those strangers in the park who failed to intervene. You see, the mother in this case was horrified by the lack of attention, care or insight demonstrated by passers-by who failed to assist her child. In an email she sent to a circle of friends warning them of the incident, she wrote:
“The scariest thing of all is that it was a public holiday, and therewere a million people around.
THE PONT IS THERE WAS A HYSTERICAL 6-YEAR OLD AND NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON
INTERVENED!!”
Both Fairfax Media and the mother in the above case came to a similar conclusion: onlookers should always approach distressed children and ask them if ‘they’re alright’ or whether the adult accompanying them is their parent:
If you see a child obviously in distress (and not just because they didn’t get that Kinder Surprise™ they had their heart set on) get down on your knees and be sure to look into their eyes when asking them if they’re alright; failing that get right into the face of the person they’re with, because when it comes to our kids and their safety it’s time for all of us to step out of our comfort zones.