I thought I would write a little bit of my view upon dating an “Available Mum”.
I sit with these terminology a lot better, as “single mum” really adds the aspect of “destined to be alone” right? I just wanted to let you know, I don’t actually believe that is the case.
I broke up with my baby’s dad 11 months ago and I can tell you it was amicable. We broke up because as much as we tried, we just were not happy together. We had a lot of respect for each other (we still do) but we lost the feeling and throw a baby into the mix, and there were too many small arguments and all of a sudden we were “too tired”.
I remember making a decision believing there had to be more to life than this and not knowing the outcome or what would come next, I chose happiness and growth, took a chance and we separated. Another chapter had begun.
I gave it some time but decided I really did want to date (I hadn’t really experienced this before) and you know what, there is only so much Peppa Pig and Uber Eats you can do on alternate Weekends.
I have been experimenting with app dating, like Bumble. I know, I know, I said it may not of been my thing but honestly, in this day what don’t we do from an app?
So did I put on my dating profile “single mum”? No, I chose not to because that is not my identity in the slightest.
I believe whoever you are dating should like YOU FOR YOU. Forming your opinion based off a profile is a very misleading game that is played in the dating world these days and besides you cant really form an opinion until you get to know people.
I met a guy in a bar the other day, randomly, not from an app. I was having a wine before meeting a friend for dinner. You can do that right? Go to a bar by yourself and have a Rose’?
As a mum I really don’t think you would even second-guess it, I never even drank wine or in general till September so I guess anything goes in this journey. Any how, he bought me a drink, he had been sitting with his friends and noticed I was alone.
He asked my name, last name as well, stalking purposes I guess, and asked me if I wanted to go out to dinner with him soon. If you are wondering if this was a Carly Rae Jepsen moment – Call Me Maybe, you would be correct. I got home and he had Facebook friend requested me. It is still sitting in the request box, and I will tell him I'm a mum at dinner next week. Keeping in mind if he likes me it shouldn’t be an issue. And if it is then priorities are different and that is dodging a bullet.