'How I beat insomnia (you can forget the chamomile tea).'

On the rare occasion I now have a sleepless night, I reflect in awe on the five years I lived as a chronic insomniac. How did I do it? How the hell did I function? Not very well to be honest. They don’t torture prisoners with sleep deprivation for no reason; it is punishment of the highest level.

There is nothing fun about not sleeping. There are no happy memories of childhood years gone by when we would have slumber parties and voluntarily stay up all night whispering secrets to our besties while chomping on chocolate bars and lollies.

Insomnia for me was a symptom of my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Ironically, people often relate CFS to an illness of constantly sleeping. Mine couldn’t have been further enough from that definition. What most don’t realise is that fatigue doesn’t necessarily mean sleepiness. Fatigue can often lead to alertness; a false type of alertness. When you are so energy depleted, your body shifts to adrenalin mode, which is all about alertness and feeling ‘wired’. When you are ‘wired’ the last thing your body can do is shut down and swiftly change gears to rest mode.

The truth is a large majority of us live in adrenalin mode – and it’s probably one of the greatest spoilers of a good night sleep. Whatever the cause, be it work overload, drug and stimulant intake, anxiety, illness or a constant barrage of social media and smart phone beeps, tones, rings and feeds, it is wreaking havoc with our sleep and our wellbeing. Mine was further exacerbated by a case of tinnitus; when you have a constant buzzing sound in your ears, the hyper alertness of your body reaches a completely new plane.


For a long time my only mission in life was to sleep; to place my head on the pillow, close my eyes and disappear into slumberland. To do anything, but lie awake staring at the ceiling, ruminating, worrying, and sitting at the kitchen table at 1am, 3am, 5am…

I tried every sleep remedy known to man. I went to a sleep doctor; I took conventional sleeping pills; I tried acupuncture, hypnotherapy, and kinesiology; I chanted mantras; I purchased any sleep meditation CD I could find.

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I listened to classical music; I counted sheep; I prayed; I sipped hot milk or chamomile tea prior to bed; I shared syringes of melatonin with a friend like junkies share smack; I tested every vitamin, mineral and herbal supplement that came with the wording ‘may assist sleep’.

I had strategies to get through life. One year on my birthday, in order to know I would be OK for a small gathering I was having, I ensured I didn’t take any ‘sleep support’ for a few nights and then knocked myself out with a Stilnox sleeping pill - just to enjoy my own birthday party!

Yet my body was so damn clever. Even when some of these worked for a while, it found a way to switch the alert button back on. My longest stint was on the melatonin syringes; that lasted nearly six blissful months, until my body obviously uncovered its weak link too.

"Even when some of the treatments worked for a while, my body found a way to switch back on."

I cured my insomnia by default. It was a move from Melbourne to the hills of Byron Bay that finally toppled it for me. Within one month of closing my eyes under the light of the moon, and opening them to the sunrise in the most easterly point of Australia, I began to sleep soundly once more.

The change I ended up making was quite drastic, but I wasn’t just dealing with insomnia - I was also fighting for my life. Although I didn’t move to get my sleep back, the move brought it back.

This doesn’t mean you have to pack up home and shift to Byron Bay to ditch the insomniac pattern. It’s what happened to me when I got here that restored my health, vitality - and sleep. Although probably a tad easier in the sereneness of the country, it can, and has, been achieved anywhere.

In my experience there were three things key to kicking the insomnia habit for good.

Firstly, I stopped the insomnia curing project!

Sounds ironic, but perhaps the biggest mistake in my sleep-goal project was the focus on sleep. I discovered if you do activities specifically around beating the problem, it raises the stakes and only feeds the anxiety and expectations around getting a good night of zzz’s. I now do nothing specific to sleep; rather I do things all day that pave the way for sleep.

Secondly, I started following the natural cycle of the day.

We have light and dark for a reason. We don’t have a dark night to extend the day with artificial light and we don’t have daylight to lie in bed tucked up under blankets, snoozing. As a society we’ve reversed this cycle and sometimes believe life begins once the stars are out and shining. Do you notice how young children get up early? Follow them, they know the drill!

Contrary to popular sleep philosophy, I don’t sleep in a darkened room; I actually sleep in a room with no blinds. I haven’t used an alarm clock since I moved to Byron Bay and hope that I never need to again. There is nothing quite like rising to the sun to naturally activate and restore your sleep hormones. I know this isn’t always possible, but whenever you can, aim to make the first light you see each day ‘natural’ and not artificial. I also always try and stop - even for a few minutes - at both sunrise and sunset to acknowledge the shifting patterns of the day.

"I always try to stop at both sunrise and sunset to acknowledge the shifting patterns of the day."

I took the long and winding road to learn the hard way that it isn’t the little remedies we try that fixes the problem. When a condition is caused by our lifestyle and choices, the only thing we can change is our lifestyle and choices.

Following our natural cycle means we build our energy for the day in line with the sun. Unless you are a shift worker and work evenings, none of us ought to be consuming our biggest meal at night. Our fuel needs to be built for when we are most active. When I started eating heavier more energy-rich meals during the day and lighter meals in the evening, I found my sleep to be less restless and I woke with less pain or lethargy. Try your main meat meal at lunch and a lighter protein, such as fish, or whole grains and vegetables at night, and watch how your sleep alters. Our bodies aren’t designed to digest food at night, nor do they like the big dose of acid that circulates for hours after a heavy meal. They want to do what they do best at night - repair and restoration.

Friends often respond by telling me they are night owls and get a burst of energy in the evenings. This may be so - but it’s usually because we either consume energising food and drinks just before sleep or we use up energy our body would like for restoration and rejuvenation over night by extending our daily activities way beyond their use by date. It’s a hard pattern to break, but one that will serve us well over the longer term.

Finally, I got off the adrenalin ride and learnt how to house and calm my spirit.

This isn’t meant to sound like a new-age philosophy; it’s actually a very old philosophy that stems from Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM). I don’t think there is any other teaching that has talked to me better than TCM on this topic. We have all heard of yin and yang but this is it in practice. To sleep we need to learn how to nurture our yin - the calming and receptive part of our being. What this entails is different for all of us, but here are a few specifics that seemed to help me:

1.Find activities that ground and nourish you. For me it is cooking, gardening, connecting with people and spending time in the bush or by the water. The most important element of this is to find things that take you out of your mind and shift your focus to your body. Yin is about our physical bodies and what feeds them.


"Find activities that ground and nourish you."

2. Reduce the ‘heat’ in your life, in particular as the sun starts to set. Keep the majority of your fast-paced activity for earlier in the day and start incorporating more cooling activities as the day turns into night. Heat can be of any kind, including food, drinks, heated conversations and environment, stimulants, technology, TV and excessive mental activity - basically anything that tends to get you fired up or wired, anxious and irritable.

For example, if I have garlic or really spicy food at night, I will have vivid, wild and violent dreams, especially so in the heat of summer. Using a smartphone near bedtime will leave my brain wired, as will computer usage. And I’ve found heat packs or electric blankets actually can upset the natural rhythm of the body, which wants to cool over night rather than heat up. If you are cold, the key is to understand you need to warm your body with nourishing soups, stews, drinks and layers of clothes, rather than foods that overheat it or environments that are artificially hot.

When I’ve had an adrenalin-spiked day, I make an extra effort to shut down at night; phones off, lighting dimmed, candles lit, centred conversation and food that nurtures and grounds.

It all boils down to knowing how to control the alert button, and not let it control you. What I found is that we tend to have more time ‘on’ than ‘off’. It doesn’t mean we have to put a complete halt on the ‘on’ button; a little bit of adrenalin inspires, motivates and helps us to achieve and create. We just need to learn how and when to flick the switches and the best way to do this is to follow our oldest and wisest teacher - mother nature.

No matter what your health ailment is, without sleep our body can not heal. It is in those hours of darkness that our major organs have a chance to regenerate. The main theme for me in healing my insomnia has been to focus on the whole picture of my life, not just those eight hours when I ought to be in bed asleep. By doing this I was able to find a way to reset the battery in my body to do what it does best - follow the sun.

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