Warning: this post may be distressing for some readers.
A story about a mother ‘hating’ her third child, published on a popular online blogging site, has disturbed readers and opened a confronting conversation about regretting having children.
The ‘mother-of-three’, who posted anonymously on Reddit, explained that she had two daughters, aged eight and six, who she loved. However, she’d fallen pregnant a third time, despite using birth control. She hadn’t realised she was pregnant until 16 weeks, when it was too late to terminate. She says she “sobbed her eyes out”, not wanting to go through the baby and toddler stage again.
“I feel terrible saying this, but I found myself willing this pregnancy to have a serious problem, because that’s the exception for an abortion,” she wrote. “But it was healthy.”
“I felt ‘cornered’ into having the baby because I felt we couldn’t really have two babies and then ‘give one away’.”
The woman lost her job when she was 36 weeks pregnant. Once the baby was born, she found him a lot more difficult than her two daughters, describing him as “a refluxy/colicky nightmare”.
She admits she “honestly hated him” for the first 18 months of his life.
“I don’t want to be insensitive to anyone who has suffered a loss in this way, but I have to be honest, my husband and I both had a period where if he had have died in his sleep, we would have felt relief,” she added.
The boy is now three, but the woman says she still doesn’t love him, is not interested in talking to him, and feels “nothing” when he gives her a hug.
Despite going to two therapists, the woman hasn’t been able to change the way she feels about her son.
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I had a third child...
Unplanned pregnancy after two planned children. I was going to terminate but found out that the pregnancy was too far along.
Then my son was born.
I think back to the time where I had planned to terminate him and I am SO DAMN THANKFUL that I avoided making such a terrible mistake. He was unplanned... but he is VERYMUCH wanted.
My situation was similar but somehow I can't seem to relate.
You know I already knew before reading that let me guess her first two who she loves would be girls and the third a boy. Boys just completely suck and are more immature. Whatever person on Earth especially a mother who's always expected to raise the children idk what woman would want a son. Children are already hard as is but males it's just in their DNA to be more clingy rowdy and annoying af who would choose the difficult route. I have two daughters 2 & 1 and I would never want a boy EVER . However I do want a third girl BUT I will not take that risk because in fear of a male child which I would most likely not abort at 12 weeks when you can find out the gender. It sucks cuz it's so late in pregnancy to know gender. And than it becomes sad to abort it. So I won't take that chance. Even tho I want three girls and I got two. I will not take that chance. Cuz I'll hate that male so much.