My daughter goes to school and just like any other child, she plays.
Often I’ll ask her, “Who did you play with today?” and she’ll respond, “Oh no one, just myself”.
I start to feel sick in the pit of my stomach. I worry.
I know she is liked by other children, but the solid relationships are yet to form.
My daughter is happy to skip to the beat of her own drum.
Now, it’s not like she is being teased, pushed away, and treated badly, no, not at all.
More so than anything she is a child who doesn’t conform, a child who is happy to walk away if the activity doesn’t suit. Alas my worry for her lies with real connection.
So I intervene in a bid to help her along. I provide numerous opportunities for play dates, I encourage my daughter to be social on every occasion and alas her social behaviour is much the same. I start to wonder, should I be intervening? Should I let nature take its own course?
It’s taken me a good year of her being at school to stop and realise she is happy.
First and foremost, she is happy.
I have to ask myself, as a parent, isn’t this what we want for our children, happiness. Does it really matter who they choose to play with, or more to the point who they don’t? As long as they go to school each day, continue on their learning journey and enjoy themselves along the way. Isn’t this enough?