couples

The bride's a little unsure about her groom's choice in wedding day attire.

But not in the way you think.

Deciding what to wear on your wedding day is a big commitment. And it’s usually the bride who is under the most pressure to find the perfect look.

But one Reddit user has shared a predicament that we never saw coming.

This woman’s fiance doesn’t want to wear a traditional suit, but a wedding dress. She’s penned her concern is a fairly long entry, looking for advice on her sticky situation.

My fiance, the groom, wants to wear a wedding dress.

And, I totally support him.

Yes, I’m a woman and he’s a man and we’re totally a heterosexual couple.

We recently came across some dresses and we both fell in love with them. They’re from a Korean designer who kinda does a fusion of traditional and modern. We’re Americans but we travel to Korea often. We came across the designer because I got a different dress made (another fusion style) on our recent trip there.

And then we saw the dresses and were both blown away. Knowing we’ll get married some time in 2015, I immediately wanted to wear one and my fiance loved the idea.

My dress.

After a few days, having discussed it a bit, the conversation turned to what my fiance should wear. It was at that point that he sheepishly admitted that he wishes he could wear a dress like that, too, because it's so beautiful. At first I just chuckled because I thought he was joking, but then he told me that if it were up to him, he would wear it. I could tell he was being serious.

I felt really sympathetic. I get to wear what I want, so why can't he? He's played around with cross-dressing a bit before in private and I don't have much issue with some gender bending. Plus, it is a really beautiful dress.

So, frankly, I support him. He wants to wear it, so why not? We've talked about it a few times over the past few months and his feelings haven't changed a bit.

Fortunately, our friends and families are pretty progressive, though I'm sure it will cause a bit of a stir. We're not going to have a huge wedding, but it won't be tiny either.

So our concern is what others will think and what impact it will have on the wedding. I'm sure no one will cause a scene, but this is obviously going to have some kind of impact.

I asked my husband what he thinks about wearing a tux/suit rather than the dress and he said he wouldn't be very happy about it. And, especially as time goes on, I think I'd rather see him wear the dress. It's both because it makes him happy and I think he'll be gorgeous (not just in my mind - I think he can actually look beautiful in it). Another plus is that he's a fairly slim guy (not too hairy, rugged etc., too), so he'll fit into it fine and won't look crazy out of place.

We've also thought that if he does wear it, he'd certainly be prepped for it; he won't just throw on a dress. Body hair will be removed (fortunately he doesn't have a lot). He won't cut his hair before the wedding (it's already rather long for a man) and his hair will be styled and possibly coloured. He will also wear full makeup and nails. (I'm thinking we'll give him a little insert support in the bust, too).

He's having a hard time deciding between dresses. Considering we go ahead with this and he wears one, which one would suggest?

The dresses my fiance is deciding between.

We both like how the model has her makeup and hair and that may be inspiration for my husband's hair and makeup. What do you think?

Another thing is veils. I think it'd be sweet to have matching veils.

I would love any insight into both the situation surrounding this (husband wearing a dress and makeup, hair etc.) as well as insights into the dresses themselves.

Thank you!

With the entry having been posted five months ago, we're curious to see how the wedding went down.

We'll keep you posted with any updates...

So... what would you do?

SCROLL THE GALLERY for 21 unusual (but still very beautiful) wedding dresses...


 Like this? Try these:
The 15 most appalling stories of wedding guests behaving badly.
The wedding dress trend every bride is jumping into.

Follow iVillage on Facebook

When you become a parent, you don't leave your brain in the delivery suite. That's why mothers with kids of all ages come to themotherish.com; because they're still interested in news about entertainment, health, current affairs and food along with an inspiring and useful stream of parenting advice and support.

Most importantly, they come because they want to hear personal stories of parenting directly from other mothers, without fear of judgement.

[iv-signup-form]