I’m just going to come out and say it – as a society, we’ve become pretty bloody rude.
Somewhere along the way (I suspect circa 1985), we forgot our manners. We don’t instinctively give up a seat to a pregnant woman on a crowded bus. We forget to say please and thank you when we request and receive.
And it’s just not good enough.
Sure, some argue the manners we lived by in the past are now outdated, old fashioned and unnecessary.
We beg to differ.
We thinks previous generations were onto something.They nodded to the person approaching them on the street, acknowledged the friendly commuter who let them into traffic and asked to be excused from the table when they were done. They were polite, and they considered others.
And these are the simple, polite measures that need to make a comeback:
1. RSVP. Properly.
What kind of person doesn't RSVP? To a wedding? An disrespectful idiot, that's who.
Not only is it now common for people to not formally RSVP (via card in the mail), they sometimes don't respond AT ALL. They either just turn up on the day - or they don't.
Anyone who's ever been married knows your day hinges on the guest count. Family wars have started over the final number so when some rude person doesn't have the decency to let you know their availability, three months in advance, it just screams 'impolite'.
It's not just weddings. Birthday parties are also ripe ground for RSVP-avoidance. How hard is it to text a response? Email one? Come on now, bring back this courtesy.
2. Write thankyou notes.
I get it, we're busy. We're all 'busy'. But I'm here to tell you that NO ONE is too busy to thank Great Aunty Ethel for the beautiful shawl she knitted your NEW BORN SON. It's all some older folk want, hell it's all I want when I've taken the care and time to purchase or make a gift for someone.
Hearing nothing, not even an acknowledgement that they received your gift, is both rude and disrespectful. Say thank you, preferably in a handwritten note.