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He told me I didn't have a vagina

Jacqui Beck is a beautiful young girl who was born without a vagina.

This 17-year-old girl didn't even know until she went to a doctor with back pain and mentioned she'd never have a period. What he discovered shocked them both. The young girl had no cervix, womb or vagina. It's a condition known as Müllerian agenesis.

There was just a dimple where her vagina should have been.

You can just imagine how devastating this news was. At 17 girls think a lot about their bodies, about having sex, about one day becoming mothers.

She told the Daily Mail that at first she refused to believe it but once the shock faded, reality quickly set in. "I left the doctors in tears...I would never know what it was like to give birth, be pregnant, have a period," she said.

"All the things I had imagined doing suddenly got erased from my future. I was really angry and felt like I wasn't a real woman any more."

This poor girl felt incredible shame. She called her mum who tried to help her focus on the positives. It's not like she was terminally ill or had cancer. Her mum reminded her of all the benefits of her condition. "She also encouraged me to focus on the bright side. We laughed as we listed all the things I wouldn’t have to go through, period cramps, childbirth, smear tests - to try and look on the bright side."

It wasn't until she was referred to Queen Charlotte and Chelsea hospital in London that specialists gave her some small hope she may get to live a normal life after all.

She was put in touch with women who shared the same condition and felt instantly supported. Then, as part of her treatment she was asked to use a dilator to stretch her vaginal cavity. A nurse demonstrated how.

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"The first time the nurse showed me how to use a dilator I nearly died of embarrassment," she told the Daily Mail. "But now I've got used to it, I see it as any other form of treatment."

If the dilator doesn't work she may undergo surgery. If she wants to become a mother, she can have her eggs harvested and will need the assistance of a surrogate. Still, Jacqui is choosing to focus on the positives and accept herself for who she is.

She also expects men to do the same.

"I’m a hopeless romantic and I see it as a great test of someone’s character. Instead of focusing on it putting off men,  I actually think it will help me find, 'the one'. I want to be upfront with any men I meet and tell them straight away about my condition. I don’t want them to feel tricked into being with me. I will feel more comfortable if they know the truth and besides, if they run at the mention of MRKH then I don’t want to be intimate with them."

Today, Jacqui is like any normal teenage girl, flooding all her social media accounts with status updates and photos, even several YouTube videos.

"If I had cancer, or, any other medical issue, people would be supportive. So, I recently came out to everyone on Facebook, telling them about my condition," she explains.

"I was surprised at how positive everyone was, they said I was brave and beautiful, now I wish I had been open about it from the beginning."

It's heart warming to see. Check out Jacqui belting out this incredible tune.