Mumsnet user Poppy was delighted to received a “huge, very eye-catching” engagement ring when her fiancé proposed two years ago.
The now-married woman has often been on the receiving end of glowing comments about the ring; friends have said “it’s two carat at least” and gushed about what the cost must have been, while her husband has “made comments about how much it set him back.”
But only this month, at a dinner with her friends, Poppy realised something wasn’t quite right.
“Last weekend I was at a dinner and a friend’s husband, who’s a jeweller, noticed the ring and made a huge fuss of it,” the woman wrote.
“His wife compared her ring which was half the size and then they chatted quietly to each other, looking at the two rings, [before looking] at me with what I can only describe as mixture of sympathy and confusion as they gave it back.”
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The issue isn't whether we're all morally above wearing such fripperies as diamonds (it's Swahili, what rubbish), but the lie and deception. Presenting something as something else is not cool, and is quite a big deceit to one's spouse. What else might be presented as one thing, yet be another? I'd feel quite foolish, personally, a bit of a joke at my expense.
I'd far rather not have a ring at all, or something very much more modest, chosen with honesty.
Mmmm I think it’s the dishonesty that would get to me .mind you I would probably be quite happy to not wear a fitting on my fingers but I would like to know about it . It seems to me that this young man maybe feels insecure in himself or he has told a lie that has taken on a life if it’s own . Either way some serious but kind conversing needs to take place