An expert guide to coping with tantrums and flare-ups daily_blabber October 6, 2011 So your child’s tantrums shoot off the Richter scale? You’re not alone. While you might not be able to stop them completely, here are ways to turn down the heat… By Fiona Gibson making excuse children behaviourDoes your child take ownership over their behaviour? tant2Let’s do something more interesting instead...Whenever possible, stop a tantrum before it properly starts by distracting your child from the source of frustration. tant3Spotting the triggersIf there are obvious triggers that send him into the stratosphere, it makes sense to avoid them if you possibly can. From our partner tant5Hold me closeThe public tantrum is harder to handle. tant6Quiet playIt’s not only adults who can be tired and emotional. tant7‘Why me?’Unfair though it seems, children tend to throw more tantrums when they’re with the person they spend most of their time with – and that pr From our partner tant8Older... and wiser?Although most children stop throwing tantrums by around four or five, some still have furious outbursts when they’re much older. tant9‘What about me?’Certain events can trigger more flare-ups than usual – like the arrival of a new baby sibling. tant10Picking your battlesIf certain evens tend to trigger an outburst, consider whether they’re worth the drama involved. tant11‘Mummy, get off the phone...’Tantrums can also be an effective way of grabbing your attention – witness your child bellowing as soon as you start chattin From our partner tant12Time for treatsResearch suggests that the vast majority of tantrums are triggered by a parent saying ‘no’ – so, no matter how much he roars for an ice lo 1 / 12 Previous Next JOIN THE CONVERSATION FROM OUR NETWORK What's Popular 1I let my mum set me up with a guy from her work and he turned out to be... such a catch. 2"The kind act that made me realise 11-and-a-half is the best age of a kid." 3Freddie was 14 when she joined the resistance. It haunted her for the rest of her life. 4The practical detail people think they have spotted on Bec Judd's Brownlow dress. 5Just all the gorgeous dresses from the 2018 Brownlow Medal red carpet in the one place. FROM OUR NETWORK Want more from mamamia?