An expert guide to coping with tantrums and flare-ups daily_blabber October 6, 2011 So your child’s tantrums shoot off the Richter scale? You’re not alone. While you might not be able to stop them completely, here are ways to turn down the heat… By Fiona Gibson making excuse children behaviourDoes your child take ownership over their behaviour? tant2Let’s do something more interesting instead...Whenever possible, stop a tantrum before it properly starts by distracting your child from the source of frustration. tant3Spotting the triggersIf there are obvious triggers that send him into the stratosphere, it makes sense to avoid them if you possibly can. From our partner tant5Hold me closeThe public tantrum is harder to handle. tant6Quiet playIt’s not only adults who can be tired and emotional. tant7‘Why me?’Unfair though it seems, children tend to throw more tantrums when they’re with the person they spend most of their time with – and that pr From our partner tant8Older... and wiser?Although most children stop throwing tantrums by around four or five, some still have furious outbursts when they’re much older. tant9‘What about me?’Certain events can trigger more flare-ups than usual – like the arrival of a new baby sibling. tant10Picking your battlesIf certain evens tend to trigger an outburst, consider whether they’re worth the drama involved. tant11‘Mummy, get off the phone...’Tantrums can also be an effective way of grabbing your attention – witness your child bellowing as soon as you start chattin From our partner tant12Time for treatsResearch suggests that the vast majority of tantrums are triggered by a parent saying ‘no’ – so, no matter how much he roars for an ice lo 1 / 12 Previous Next FROM OUR NETWORK JOIN THE CONVERSATION What's Popular 1At 18, Skylar Richardson allegedly had a stillborn baby girl. Now she's facing jail for murder. 2Celeb in 5: Saturday's best entertainment and gossip news. 3‘When I gave up high intensity training, my body changed for the better.’ 4The real reason you get dark circles under your eyes and what to do about them. 5The relatable reason why Meghan Markle always wears her shoes one size too big. FROM OUR NETWORK Want more from mamamia?