I read Jessie Stephen’s story about the latest Twitter hashtag trend for ‘Doctors Are Dickheads’ with a heavy heart. I am married to a general practitioner, a few of our friends are doctors and I was aggrieved to read such a sad story that negatively impacts thousands of caring healthcare professionals around the country who are trying their very best to do a very difficult job.
The doctors I know are smart people who enjoy their work and love their families. They are no different to the other educated people I know and am friends with, and they certainly do not deserve to be generalised as dickheads.
So often at mothers’ group, playgroup, the school gates, I hear people whingeing about their ‘stupid GP’ or ‘rude doctor’.
I get it.
Mums and dads with sick children are scared and worried about their kids. They don’t want to be told “it’s just a cold – give it seven days.” They want antibiotics and a diagnosis. They want healthy children and they don’t want to wait in a stifling surgery for hours on end. I understand all of that, I’ve been there myself but I also see it from the other side.
I saw my husband through years of study and exam stress. I worked as a cleaner and a nanny and enjoyed all sorts of cash-in-hand jobs to help us to pay our rent while he studied at university and through his first couple of years as an intern and a resident. It was stressful for us both as he worked nights and weekends and on-call and eventually decided to train as a GP. Now he mostly loves his job and gets great satisfaction from talking to and helping his patients.
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Actually Laura, until I got chronically sick, I would have agreed with you. Now, from experience, I think at least 60% of Australian Drs, maybe higher are indeed dickheads.
6 Drs tried to tell me it was all in my head, my illness was psychosomatic or I was depressed. I knew it wasn't. It wasn't until I met a caring, thoughtful, overseas trained, psychiatrist, that these diagnoses were tossed, in favour of multiple TBDs. The aggressiveness and outright arrogance of some of these Drs when I reported the results of overseas tests was a sight to behold. I so wish I had recorded the appointments.
Only one of those Drs had the sense to ask if I had been overseas. This Dr changed her mind and started treating me. She then got more people wanting help. She lost her provider number due to the testing she asked for.
I know have a Dr who is willing to accept the diagnosis but unwilling to specifically treat due to fear of losing her livelihood from peers reporting her. My wife's Dr is the same.
See now why my opinion is that most #DoctorsAreDickheads
Anyone else who has seen that kind of behaviour from multiple Drs, is also unlikely to change their minds due to this opinion piece.
If your husband is willing to think outside the narrow box that the AMA, RCPA and others, so rigidly enforce, then he is not among this group and I praise him for his courage.
Considering the amount of young doctors in training who are taking their own lives each year I find this 'dickhead doctor' thing deplorable. Not to mention that they are dealing with every sub-section of the population day in day out. My partner is a surgeon and has been attacked at work numerous times, simply for doing his job. He was so traumatised by his first few years at work that he tried to take his own life many times - fortunately we sought help and he is in a better place now.
Even now, when he deals with a sad case at work he comes home and cries for the patient and their family. So in short he goes to work every day with the threat of violence and comes home and cries for his patients that night - such a dickhead right?
Yes, you get bad eggs in every industry, even doctors. I don't deny that I've had awful GP treatment before, but I sought additional treatment when I didn't get the answers I needed - even when I was crippled with pain. Even though it is healthcare I am a consumer, and if I don't like the treatment I get I go elsewhere, and I learnt to advocate for myself in the process. Lets stop putting healthcare workers up high and treat them like they are - individuals providing a service that we can either use, or choose another provider. Simple as that.