"Dear Anti-Vax Parents, I don't blame you, I blame the people who created the myths."

A letter from a doctor to “those” parents.

Dear Anti-Vax Parents,

In the wake of the Disneyland measles outbreak, there’s been a lot of heated talk about parents who choose not to vaccinate their children. It seems like the medical community is now protesting even louder than the anti-vax groups were a couple years ago. But I want to take a moment and apologise for the harsh tone some of us have taken.

It’s not personal.

We’re not mad at you.

On the 7th of January, official of the California department of public health said they believe a person infected with measles was staying in the Disneyland theme park in December. The unknown patient infected others at the theme park. What started out as 7 people infected within California has become a national concern with the viral disease spreading to Colorado, Utah and Washington and schools shutting down in the Californian region to prevent the spread among unvaccinated children and babies.

We are mad at people like Andrew Wakefield, who fabricated a study linking vaccines to autism and scared millions of parents into avoiding vaccinations.

We are confused by Jenny McCarthy, who has zero medical training, but somehow managed to lead a massive movement against immunisations (although she now claims that she’s not anti-vaccines).

We are infuriated by Dr. Bob Sears, who certainly knows better, but capitalises on your fear for his own profit, while placing your children’s lives at risk.

It’s not your fault. You’ve been misled. You’ve been lied to.

And all you wanted to do was to protect your children, whom you love deeply. We’re really not that different.

Pediatricians across the country have dedicated their lives to protecting your children. None of us picked pediatrics for the money (although I like to make surgeons laugh by telling them that I did). We don’t get kickbacks from vaccine companies. None of us sells millions of books recommending that you follow the CDC’s immunisation schedule—that’s a hard book to get published. We get no joy from sticking your kids with needles (and neither do our nurses).

We do it because we care, and because we love your kids, too.


Really, the only difference between you and us is that we know how effective vaccines can be. We know the diseases they prevent. We know that about 2 in 1,000 kids with measles will die, that pertussis can kill babies, and that varicella (chickenpox) can cause more than just an itchy rash.

We understand that the Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS) is a quality control system designed to monitor for potential complications, not a registry of adverse events that are indisputably linked to vaccines. We view immunisations as one of the most important medical advances in the prevention of infectious diseases. We know that immunised children are less likely to die from preventable diseases.

So let’s band together.

We’re not evil – and you’re not, either. We all want nothing more than healthy, happy kids. And you don’t have to trust us – feel free to do your research. But get your facts from reputable sources. Talk to your doctor openly about your concerns. And if your child isn’t immunised, tell the healthcare providers that take care of her; it changes our management, and it could save your child’s life.


Your Child’s Pediatrician

How do you feel about parents who choose not to vaccinate their children?

This was originally posted on Chad’s blog and is republished with full permission. His post received an enourmous amount of comments – some fueling the myths frightening parents. In response, he closed his comments and wrote this note.

Final thoughts: You may have noticed that the comments for this thread are now closed. To those of you who expressed appreciation, and to those of you who politely and respectfully disagreed with me, I truly appreciate your time. I’m not always right–no one is. And I enjoy polite discussions that may, in fact, sway my current beliefs about a topic. What I refuse to tolerate are baseless claims that endanger our children by playing off of parental fears with no substantive evidence, personal attacks on my intelligence or my perceived lack of knowledge about a topic, or attempts to use my post as a platform for launching your own arguments against modern science-based medicine. This post was an honest and compassionate attempt to bring together both sides of this topic; to foster open discussion between pediatricians and parents; and to promote health for our children. It was far more popular than I ever dreamed it would be, and it resulted in a seemingly endless stream of disparagement and denigration. I no longer have time to respond to moderate or respond to these comments…because I’m taking care of sick children. Thanks for reading.

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