And I don’t know how to tell my wife.
I know everyone warned me that when we brought a baby into our life, everything would change.
And some things have changed, and I don’t mind. But there is one thing that I do mind. I mind a lot.
My wife insists on bed-sharing with our 6-month-old. Since day one, she’s slept with our baby in our bed.
At first there was the constant fear I was going to squash the baby, until my wife eventually agreed to not putting the baby in the middle of us. But instead on her side with her in the middle.
At first, I thought it would just be a few days. Maybe even a week. I wanted to be a supportive husband. I wanted to show I cared. But the baby never left the bed.
Now, every night my wife cuddles our son instead of me. Every night, I’m faced with her back to me.
Before the baby, no matter how tired we were we would have late night meaningless chats before falling asleep. Things we’d forgotten to tell each other. Now it’s, “shhh…you’ll wake the baby”. She’s basically replaced me.
And forget about sex. No night time sex at all. Ever.