Dear Friends,
It is again the holiday season. And it is so f-cked. End of post.
I jest.
I think the holidays look terrible to us sometimes because they don’t look how they’re supposed to look. But we’re the ones who decide what things are supposed to look like. Not a viagra ad, not Plenty of Fish nor The Hallmark Channel.
I know some women, much younger than I, who are happy on their own. Their model for what they want their lives to look like does not have a man by their side. A relationship is a possibility, but not a prerequisite, and it’s no less valuable if it’s impermanent.
There! No buying into those bridal magazine layouts which, after all, are designed to sell a bunch of stuff you’ll only use once. Things look good to them this holiday season because they didn’t drink the mainstream media Kool-Aid. Are they happy overall? Yes. Ok, no holiday agony.
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This more relates to the link on "what not to say" (or what to say) but a friend of mine said to me after a traumatic event this year "I want you to know that I'm here for you, so I'm going to call every few days. I know that you may not want to talk, so you don't have to pick up, but that way you know I'm here if you do."
It was wonderful. I found it hard to reach out and "burden" friends with my circumstances, this eliminated that feeling.