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Celebrity mums experience mummy-shaming on a level we could never imagine.

It’s hard for them, too.

Let’s be honest – there wouldn’t be many who’d decline to join the ranks of the rich and famous mums of this world. However, I know I’d pass. Because it seems every day there’s yet another famous mother thrust into the spotlight for their so called “parenting fail”. And considering it’s a truth universally acknowledged that parenting is one of the toughest jobs you’ll ever undertake (with your sense of humour and sanity intact!) I would gladly do without having my every action analysed and scorned. So isn’t it time we cut celeb mums some slack?

1. Parenting in the public eye equals triple the pressure.

If you thought you had it hard having your mothering skills on display in front of strangers any time you left your home, spare a thought for celebrities who’ve got the whole world bearing witness to how they parent 24/7. Take Reece Witherspoon, for instance. After posting a snap of her two-year-old’s breakfast on Instagram recently, it signalled open season on her nutritional choices for her child. And when Giuliana Rancic innocently shared a pic of her two year old son snacking in his high-chair there were cries of dismay from all corners of the globe that he was far too old to still be using it.

Having your every parenting decision scrutinised has to be difficult to endure on a daily basis. No one needs this type of extra pressure put on them, not even a celeb Mum.

"Having your every parenting decision scrutinised has to be difficult to endure on a daily basis."

2. Express empathy, not antipathy.

We've all had them - those days when wrestling a ravenous crocodile at dinner time seems like an easier (and more appealing!) option than dealing with a cranky child. Yet when North West made her Fashion Week debut in February, and did what most normal 20 month olds do by staging a mini meltdown it seemed the whole world had an opinion on her bad behaviour. Heck it even made headline news!

Any parent who has been subject to a tantrum of epic proportions by their child in a public place (and unless you never left the house with your child between the ages of 12 months and 4 years old this means you) knows it's not something you want splashed across the world's every media outlet. You need empathy - like the stranger who's been in your shoes and gives you a sympathetic smile - not antagonism that she should not have been present in the first place.

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3. No amount of money can buy you immunity from PND.

Yes, when you are wealthy you do have access to a flotilla of hired help to keep your household running smoothly after kids come into the equation. And yes, I'm sure it's a massive relief not to have to worry about the overflowing laundry basket or living week to week. But no, it does not automatically equate to being immune from Post Natal Depression.

"Yes, when you are wealthy you do have access to a flotilla of hired help to keep your household running smoothly after kids come into the equation."

With one in five mothers likely to succumb to PND, it's ridiculous to assume that just because you have the funds to throw at your problems you will escape its clutches. A slew of famous stars, from Brooke Shields to Gwyneth Paltrow and Jennifer Lopez have all been PND sufferers yet these women seem to attract more scorn than support. We should remember that despite the difference in our bank accounts Post Natal Depression does not discriminate. All the wealth in the world should not discount you from getting the sympathy and understanding you need to heal at such a difficult time.

4. Too much pressure to look the part.

I don't know about you but in the first few weeks after giving birth wearing anything other than elasticised pants would make me break out in hives. Yet there's the expectation in the celeb mum circle that you must shed your excess baby weight in record time in case you jeopardise that magazine photo spread of you clutching your newborn dressed only in your bikini.

In celeb land, this scenario is the ultimate catch 22. Tabloids either lambast you for failing to shed the extra kilos, or condemn you if you lose it all too fast. Kourtney Kardashian is a prime example - after giving birth to her first child back in 2010, she went to extreme measures to lose the baby weight in time for a photo shoot and ended up collapsing mid exercise on a Miami beach. Fast forward to baby number two in 2012 and even her own partner is criticising her for being slow to lose the excess pounds and regain her image. No wonder her sister Kim decided to go AWOL after the birth of her first child - in the world of celebs and weight no one can win!

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"No wonder her sister Kim decided to go AWOL after the birth of her first child - in the world of celebs and weight no one can win!"

5. Don't we all want our children to have more than we did growing up?

The soap boxes of the world get quite the workout when it comes to the lavish life kids of celebs lead. In fact, it's almost become a national pastime to scorn any celebrity mum who dares throw their child an outrageously expensive birthday party or dress them in couture clothes.

Most Mums aspire to give their children more than they had themselves growing up and celebs are no different. Katie Holmes and her daughter Suri are one of the biggest targets of this constant criticism. But if your childhood was humble and you could afford to do differently, wouldn't you choose to let your kids enjoy life's luxuries? It shouldn't matter that Katie paid thousands of dollars for her daughter's first birthday cake or that Suri enjoys wearing dresses from Chloe or Stella McCartney. Let them enjoy spoiling their beloved children without the unnecessary jealous barbs directed their way.

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