During the past month I’ve spent the majority of my weekends wedding dress shopping with my bridal party.
I’m getting married in May next year and have a relatively tight deadline to receive it in time for my big day. So I was forced to squeeze in a huge amount of shopping in very little time.
My bridal party, consisting of four bridesmaids, have been there for me every step of the way and have sent me plenty of wedding dress inspiration. They were also frantically calling bridal boutiques to try and line up appointments for me. It was thoughtful and lovely.
So last weekend after much stress and anticipation, I finally found my dream dress while at a bridal boutique. Wanting to make sure I had it ordered on time to allow for appropriate fittings, I put down a fifty percent down-payment (a requirement of the boutique I was purchasing from before they would order it in for me).
I was ecstatic and thrilled that I’d finally found my gown. I took my bridal party out for lunch afterwards to celebrate and we had a really lovely afternoon together. But then when I got home I got a phone call from my bridesmaid Sandra that left me shaking and in tears.
Sandra informed me that another bridesmaid, Tanya, who is a close friend of mine from school, had shared a picture of me in the wedding dress I purchased on her Instagram account. I have social media, but I don’t use it or check it often.
Sandra, a friend who I work with, knew that I wouldn’t see it and felt that she owed it to me to tell me so I could address it if I wished.
Upon receiving the news I immediately called Tanya.
To be clear, I wasn’t even aware the picture had been taken. I was hopping in and out of dresses so frequently during the fittings that I wasn’t really paying attention to what was going on around me. I assumed Tanya was simply on her phone, I didn’t know she was snapping pictures.
Regardless, I wouldn’t have had an issue with her taking pictures as long as they remained private. But now a picture of me in my wedding dress is on the internet more than eight months before my wedding day. It makes me feel sick and as though the magic had been taken away and ruined.