I urge you to do the same.
I spent the last two weeks at my sister’s house, helping her to recover from her mastectomy surgery. It’s been a little isolating. While I live on the fringes of civilization, she’s a little more backwoods. Needless to say, I’ve been without internet access for the duration of my stay.
I took some time to escape from her house for a few hours. For some reason, I keep getting Starbucks gift cards at work. The thing is, I don’t even drink coffee. Ever. So I decided to take a drive, sit in the closest Starbucks I could find, and throw back Chai Tea Lattes until I used up every cent of the latest award.
Tucked in a corner, jotting down ideas for a blog, I started to indulge in people watching.
Was the old couple sitting together actually happily married after decades together?
How about the young family with the small boy…would they make it past 7 years? Past 10?
The teenagers were happy and not buried in their phones. How was that possible? I thought all teenagers had phones permanently attached to their hands for easy texting and playing Flappy Bird.
How about the 50-something guy checking out the brew your own beer kits at the attached supermarket? Was he single, married, separated like me and just looking to get out from under the divorce cloud for a bit?
And the lonely old woman in the booth. Could that be me someday?
Back in September 2013 I decided to stop posting updates to my personal Facebook wall. I found Facebook depressing. I wasn't going to be one of those people who aired out their failing relationship status for all to see, so my updates were positive, fun, uplifting -- all of the things I wasn't believing inside.
I was hurting, lonely, unemployed, separated, and feeling like a failure.
All of my friends were happy so I had to be happy too. That's when I realised I was comparing my insides to everyone else's outsides. I was happy for moments, but not overall. I had good days and bad days, but no one would have ever been able to tell. I was upbeat, optimistic, and supportive in my posts, like life was one sunny meadow with song birds fluttering around my head and helping me to fold my line-dried laundry a la a Disney Princess.